Resolution of process is where its at...

I am firmly of the view that this societal fixation on forgiving othes is just another way that we bypass our own rightful anger, confusion, sense fo loss. It is also a way that victims end up feeling blamed for their experience. I do agree that we can't forgive another until we self- honor, and that forgiveness is welcome if ti's organic, but I also believe that forgiveness may have no place in certain dynamics. And that's entirely okay. Forgiveness is not a measure of our emotional health and well- being. Resolution is. That is, how we come to a relatively resolved understanding of what we went through, ho2 we come to terms with what is was, in a way that brings us to a deeper understanding and peace. Resolution of process, is where it's at. And there is no reason to feel guilty if forgiveness does not arise within it. It's enought to find peace in the aftermath. - Jeff Brown, Hearticulations.