Abuse Victims Are Not Codependent, They’re Trauma-Bonded
I Wish My Wife And I Had Stayed Together For The Kids
Invisibilia: Do the Patterns in Your Past Predict Your Future?
The myth of co-parenting
The Science of The Job Search, Part III: 61% of “Entry-Level” Jobs Require 3+ Years of Experience Why young people are having a hard time finding jobs: "After analyzing a random sample of 95,363 jobs, we discovered that 61% of all full-time “entry-level” jobs require 3+ years of experience." Also, ageism is real: "After age 35, your hireability decreases by ~8% every year." Want to know why? Because they can. Labor market saturation is a real thing.
CUTTING ‘OLD HEADS’ AT IBM
The workplace of the future
How Women Can Succeed by Rethinking Old Habits
One Mother’s Take on Tully
Dads, their boys and the ABCs of emotional intelligence.
The science of ‘When to Worry’
My kids are not an inconvenience (for you)
Pediatricians warn: Limit children’s exposure to cellphones Please commit to keeping cell phones and other wireless devices away from children. Some experts have warned of a coming brain tumor epidemic.#ForYourChildsHealth
To Raise Resilient Kids, Be a Resilient Parent

LOVE wins

The ‘Roseanne’ Reboot Is Funny. I’m Not Going to Keep Watching... Not a show that I want to support..
Donald Trump Gets Mocked After Showing He Really Doesn’t Know What The Post Office Does
Advertisers Ditch Laura Ingraham After She Mocks Parkland Activist
Homes East of Portland’s 82nd Avenue Are Selling for Unheard-Of Prices
All the crazy things happening in San Francisco because of its out-of-control housing prices
Roseanne tweets 'NAZI SALUTE' to Parkland survivor, gets a call from a ratings-obsessed Trump, she is spreading hate, not love.
LGBTQ Americans Won't Be Counted in 2020 U.S. Census After All
How this undocumented lawyer is breaking more ground with no safety net
The Root of All Cruelty?
A Portland Apartment Complex Became a Refuge for Immigrants. Its New California Owner Is Offering Them Quick Cash to Get Out.
Emoluments Lawsuit Against President Trump Allowed To Proceed
California County Faces Bitter Backlash Over Homeless Relocation Plans

Happy Pasech! פֶּסַח

For Passover, These Orthodox Jews Are Cooking On Live TV

“Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.” - Ephesians‬ ‭4:2‬ ‭NIV‬‬

"Like what you do, and then you will do your best." - Katherine Johnson

“If you don’t find a way to speak about the value of what you’re doing, you send a message that you don’t put much value on it. And if you don’t value it, why should anyone else?” - unknown

I’ll Take the Tired—Because Someday They Will Leave Me
When the Damage is Undone.
Abusive relationships: Why it’s so hard for women to ‘just leave’ "The psychological reasons women stay are naturally less visible, making it hard for many to understand and sympathize with victims.”
8 Insanely Easy Ways To Detox Your Life
Irregular bedtimes could be damaging children's health and development. Here's how
The "Friends" Zone: Are Men And Women Really Incapable Of Just Being Friends?
Stop Googling. Let’s Talk.
The Secrets Women Keep #speakthesecret
How Children Learn Bravery in an Age of Overprotection
How to talk to our sons about guns and aggression "If it is normal for boys (or at least my boy) to crave feelings of power—and it seems he does, in a way I don’t see in my daughters—then shouldn’t I avoid shaming him, making him feel there is something wrong with this desire? Because, in fact, besides this annoying pretend play, he is an extremely gentle boy."
“Don’t speak unless you can improve upon the silence.” -
The Poetry of Silence

Don’t eat off the seder plate, and other tips for non-Jews attending their first seder
Hot Agnostic Buns: A Proposal For A Pagan-Christian-Secular Easter Treat
Move Over, Brisket. There Are Fresher Foods 'Too Good To Passover'
An Illustrated Guide to the Triduum

This is how love should be.

I want to hold your hand while sleeping next to you, kiss you with every breathe, love you to the end of time and cherish every second I have with you - Judy T.
On the Things that Make Adults Cry
From Let It Be Love
:
So friends, beloveds: Let me leave you with the words that you already know to be true in your hearts.

Stick with love. Cherish yourself, and surround yourself with those who see in you the incomparable light of your being. See who brings out kinder, gentler, more beautiful qualities in you. Let them be the people in your boat.

We are not meant to be alone. We need community, and if that community is to be a beloved community, we need to create love, channel love, make love real here and now. Community doesn’t descend down from heaven. We have to form it here and now.

Unfurl your own story. It is true that we do have to wait to see “who lives, who dies, who tells your story.” Tell your own story — do it now. There is a power in owning your own story. If you don’t tell your own story, someone else will. And if you are willing to do the hard work of polishing the jewels of your soul, no one else knows the treasures of your heart as well as you do.

Go, be your best self. Be your most beautiful self. Be your luminous self. Be your most generous self. Be your most radically loving self. And when you fall short of that — as we all do, as we all have — bounce back and return. And return again. There is a grace in this returning to your luminous self.

I am not one for final words of wisdom. Some do it well, and with so much heart. I prefer to focus on the journey, and the company we keep on this journey of life, and beyond. It is the journey itself that is lovely and worth taking.

So let us keep journeying together, to a way of being together that makes beauty real and love present. Hand in hand, with this commitment to love guiding our steps; right can be actualized; justice can be mobilized; meanness can be neutralized; love can be organized; and the beloved community can be realized.

Let it be love.

The Gig Economy Celebrates Working Yourself to Death Fiverr can eat a covfefe for lunch. Whether intentionally or not, they are helping drive down wages for creative professionals. I suppose if one believes in Darwinian capitalism that's a great thing, though it's quite another if you need to make a living in an high cost-of-living country like the U.S. For MOST of the people the gig economy is not "getting unshackled from an office/factory job", it's living in a fear for being able to pay for basic needs next month.
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New Study Says Going to Concerts Regularly Will Help You Live Longer
Why Reading Books Should be Your Priority, According to Science
8 Unspoken Ways Life Is Different For Men And Women, According To Science
Perfectionism has become a hidden epidemic among young people
‘Destined to be best friends’: Boy and rescue cat with same rare eye condition, cleft lip prove differences are ‘magic’
Portland is The Nation’s Best Airport, and it Keeps Getting Even Better

America's made-up culture of guns , for millions of Americans, NOT having guns around is an important cultural value.
EPA Withdraws Air Pollution Policy
Trevor Noah taps the Alabama sheriff who spent $750,000 in inmate food funds on a beach house to explain 'legal' versus 'wrong'
CNN's Chris Cuomo is really not buying Corey Lewandowski's argument for tapping Trump's doctor for VA secretary
Trump reportedly wants the White House to be even more chaotic
Trump is way off about Amazon and the post office
Dana Carvey's John Bolton gleefully tries to reassure Stephen Colbert that he's not an 'unstable warmonger'
Sessions Pushes To Speed Up Immigration Courts, Deportations

Chametz חמץ,

I am almost ready!
Kadeish קדש – recital of Kiddush blessing and drinking of the first cup of wine
Urchatz ורחץ – the washing of the hands – without blessing
Karpas כרפס – dipping of the karpas in salt water
Yachatz יחץ – breaking the middle matzo; the larger piece becomes the afikoman which is eaten later during the ritual of Tzafun
Maggid מגיד – retelling the Passover story, including the recital of "the four questions" and drinking of the second cup of wine
Rachtzah רחצה – second washing of the hands – with blessing
Motzi מוציא – traditional blessing before eating bread products
Matzo מצה – blessing before eating matzo
Maror מרור – eating of the maror
Koreich כורך – eating of a sandwich made of matzo and maror
Shulchan oreich שולחן עורך – lit. "set table"—the serving of the holiday meal
Tzafun צפון – eating of the afikoman
Bareich ברך – blessing after the meal and drinking of the third cup of wine
Hallel הלל – recital of the Hallel, traditionally recited on festivals; drinking of the fourth cup of wine
Nirtzah נירצה – conclusion

Healing....

It's not how big the house is, it's how happy the home is. - unknown

This is a time for healing deep emotional trauma. Situations you thought you cleared are coming up again for more awareness. Healing is done in layers. You have to continue to spiral through the same emotional experiences until there is no energetic charge left to trigger you. - unknown

Even now, as broken as you may feel, you are still so strong. There's something to be said for how you hold yourself together and keep moving, even though you feel like shattering. Don't stop. This is your healing. It doesn't have to be pretty, or graceful. You just have to keep going. - Maxwell Diawuoh

We repeat what we don't repair. - unknown

Sometimes people come into our lives for a specific reason and it could be that it’s the time you need to reclaim your joy. I believe in people coming in and out of our lives when we need them most and we have the power to keep them if they are meant to be kept. When our journey with them is done then we let them go :) Life’s short - date that delicious younger/older man, take that trip, eat that cupcake


One day at a time - this is enough. Do not look back and grieve over the past for it is gone ; and do not be troubled about the future for it has not yet come. Live in the present and make it so beautiful it will be worth remembering. Happiness is a journey. Just as life is. Enjoy the ride. - Ida Scott Taylor

Don't lose the sparke that make you, you. - unknown.

Grief is like living two lives. One is where you pretend that everything is okay, and the other is where your heart silently scream in pain. - unknown

70% of your serotonin is made in your gut. What is going on in your gut is going to affect your mood, anxiety, depression and focus. - Dr. Frank Lipman

Trump lawyer's firm steered millions in donations to family members, files show
Fired VA Secretary Says White House Muzzled Him
Congress Takes A Brush To The Budget, Barring Federal Funds For Portraits
Here’s Why an Accurate Census Count Is So Important
Corporate stock buybacks are booming, thanks to the Republican tax cuts
The EPA Is Instructing Its Staffers to Cast Doubt on Climate Science
Trump ousts Veterans Affairs chief Shulkin, nominates personal physician to replace him. The president announced the move on Twitter, calling his nominee, Rear Adm. Ronny L. Jackson, “highly respected.”
All 22 Women Senators Call For Senate To Address Sexual Harassment
Jake Tapper Uses The Bible To School A Right-Wing Trump-Supporting Preacher
A Cabinet of Conspicuous Corruption "Trump’s private jet was just that: private, and paid for by himself. What these Cabinet secretaries are attempting to do is to live a Trump-lite lifestyle on the taxpayer’s dime."
Do Women Candidates Have An Advantage In 2018?
A Needle In A Legal Haystack Could Sink A Major Supreme Court Privacy Case
U.S. Economy Grew At A Faster Pace Than Earlier Thought
Retired Supreme Court Justice Stevens Calls For Repeal Of Second Amendment
Dept. Of Education Fail: Teachers Lose Grants, Forced To Repay Thousands In Loans

Criticism Prompts Facebook To Change Privacy Controls
Your cool new Samsung smartphone brought to you by noise, pain and miscarriages , considering this if you are in the market for a cell phone and is considering Samsung S9...
A swan-song for Toys R Us, the going-out-of-business sale, are you expecting a huge sale?
Facebook was tracking your text message and phone call data. Now what?
Delete facebook does not fix the problem
Delete Facebook or Not?
Facebook's Fight to End Free Will
Birth Control Apps Find A Big Market In 'Contraception Deserts'
“Young people, you have it in you to shout. It is up to you not to keep quiet. Even if others keep quiet, if we older people and leaders keep quiet, if the whole world keeps quiet and loses its joy, I ask you: Will you cry out?” –Pope Francis
POPE FRANCIS: AFTER U.S. GUN CONTROL MARCHES, CHURCH LEADER WANTS YOUTH TO KEEP SHOUTING
Opinion | A once unimaginable scenario: No more newspapers. As newspapers die, so too does democracy.
To the Women Over 40 and the 20-Somethings Who Write About Them

Taiwan Announces Ban on All Plastic Bags, Straws, and Utensils
WA teachers: We’re not just stealing their childhood, but crushing it
Eight Portland restaurants to no longer offer plastic straws starting Earth Day
The Paris Climate Accords Are Looking More and More Like Fantasy
Smartphones Are Killing The Planet Faster Than Anyone Expected

When you see something beautiful in someone, tell them. It may take second to say, but for them, it could last a life time. - unknown

The President Sang Amazing Grace

The world that we live in these days.. alternative universe

Longing & daydreaming...

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This is breastfeeding: Living your life in 3-hour increments, those were challenging days, alone in the trenches... yet, I miss it, Gabe was once so tiny and we were so connected every second of my days. I remember love sitting there, holding him after his feeding, I couldn't stop looking at him, singing to him.
Here Is What Happens The Moment You Stop Smoking

10 Beautiful Illustrations That Show How Real Love Looks
New Study Finds Mother Bears Are Sticking Around With Their Cubs Longer

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The Gender Politics of Pockets

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Do you say 'thank you' to your bus driver when exiting the bus?
New British passports to be made overseas, prompting outcry
Actor Anthony Wong finds family who never knew him, after BBC report
After 3 Decades, Washington State Bans Atlantic Salmon Farms
Portland middle school teacher put on leave for involvement in student walkout

4 reasons to date someone who's been divorced
Is Male Emotional Intelligence More Responsible for Successful Relationships? Dr. Gottman's research has consistently shown that what men do in a relationship is the crucial factor that separates a great relationship from a failed one.
When Parents Invade Childhood (A Lesson in Distrust), so glad that I am not a fan of the Easter egg hunt.
Debunking the Belief That Downtime Is a Waste of Time "Yes, we want to help prepare our children for their future. But living an overscheduled, overprogrammed life isn’t the way to do it. That kind of childhood is not only laden with stress; also, it means that the child will never be able to entertain herself. Will never be able to live inside her own head. To deal with solitude or quiet time (essential for problem solving and restoration). She may feel she absolutely has to be in the company of others, even panicking at the idea of having to keep herself amused..."
Raising overcomers: How to teach your kids to do hard things
The Sleeper’s Dilemma
Ditch Your Biological Clock—Science Says Older Moms Are Better Parents. Promising findings for women who had their kids at 35 and older. There are benefits to being older and wiser... I think I am a better mom because I waited. :)
WHAT IF ALL I WANT FOR MY KIDS IS AN ORDINARY LIFE? “You don’t need to be loud to be heard. You don’t need to look a certain way to be seen. You don’t need to be liked by everyone. You don’t need to do earth-shattering things to make a difference in this world.”
Being single will kill you faster than obesity, study says, being in isolation is differently to be feeling lonely in a room full of people or you choose to be in the moment in solitude.
Strong women would rather be alone than their time with assholes..., stop labeling.. all women, not just strong women, who enjoy the company of assholes? NO ONE!
8 Insanely Easy Ways To Detox Your Life
What if All I Want is a Mediocre Life? "What if all I want is a small, slow, simple life? What if I am most happy in the space of in between? Where calm lives. What if I am mediocre and choose to be at peace with that?" This is not a mediocre life, that is a meaningful, purposeful life. A simple and happy life.
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Love does conquer all.

I would want to know your past so i could be your future.
Imagine meeting someone who wanted to learn about your past not to punish you, but to understand how you needed to be loved.

CNN's Alisyn Camerota cleverly pressures God and Donald Trump author on how evangelicals can overlook the president's alleged treatment of women
All The White Supremacists Running For Office In 2018, there is this guy in SW WA too...
NRA Says It Receives Foreign Funds, But None Goes To Election Work
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Stephen Colbert thinks he's found 'the saddest Trump tweets' yet, and he's happy to explain why

What is the difference between I like you and I love you

Beautifully answered by Buddha

When you like a flower, you just pluck it. But
When you love a flower, you water it daily!

One who understands this, understands life...

Words to live by.

Don't ask a child to live in your world...visit their world instead. - unknown..

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Trump likes to go to depositions unprepared and then ignore this lawyers' advice
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US is an oligarchy, not a democracy

Samantha Bee delivers stinging message: “F**k you, Hope Hicks

In this life we cannot always do great things. But we can do small things with great love. - Mother Teresa

No one is going to love you exactly like you imagine.
No one is ever going to read your mind and take every star from the sky at the perfect time and hand it to you.
Ni one is going to show up at your door on a horse, with a shoe you lost.
Do you understand?
That's why you have to love yourself enough, so that any other love just adds more candles to the cake you've already iced. - Stephanie Bennett- Henry

I am a very "what's the problem, so we can fix it type of female." That silence treatment shit is dead. Grow up and learn how to communicate. - unknown

Everything Is Connected - Here's How | Tom Chi

You Are A Part Of Every Human Being

Missing you

"If you were the ocean then I'd be the wave for the moment we part I crash and I break"~Ranta Suzuki

W, remember this.

Start over, my darling. Be brave enough to find the life you want and courageous enough to chase it. Then start over and love yourself the way you were always meant to. - Madalyn Beck

Be the joy you wish to see in the world - unknown.

Resonating..reflection

My friend Peter posted this quote on social media, "Always pray to have eyes that see the best, a heart that forgives the worst, a mind that forgets the bad, and a soul that never loses faith. "- unknown

His friend, A.B. respsonsed with the following

"I'm sure everyone has their own experiences but for me, I can't agree with this posting. Seeing the best in people can make you blind to their worst. Heart that forgives the worst, allowed others around me to continually take advantage or abuse me. Mind that forgets the bad, I forgot for 4yrs until 7 panic attacks, 7 calls to the crisis hotline, and 5 visits to the emergency room helped me remember. And a soul that never loses faith, that only matters if you interact with people. Hope and faith leave you vulnerable to be taken advantage and abuse. Instead, accept people for their actions and what they say, not everyone is mentally or physically healthy. We're complex humans with both good and bad. You can't change them or influence them but always have personal integrity in everything you say and do. We can't be perfect but try so there's less self-loathing. Never forget the bad so you can use it as a benchmark to praise the good and be grateful. Always forgive yourself and strive to be better than your former self. And ultimately, you're at war with yourself no matter the environment or situation until you learn that life lesson. There'll always be a pop quiz in the future and same lessons if you need to relearn it. The one lesson that constantly challenges me is to learn to be kinder and more patient with self. So far, that's what life has taught me and it's a constant lesson to relearn with each new person I meet."

The words are powerful.

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Neuroscience Reveals 4 Rituals That Make People Happy "Practice gratitude, label emotions, make decisions, and give hugs. " YEAH. I love it.
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9 Things The Happiest Couples Do For Each Other Without Being Asked, happily reporting, loving and giving. :)
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Are You Addicted to Your Ex? This is so weird, when I am at the crossroad, confused, yet cared and loved by confused people..

But Now I'm Back

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Nothing is more important than empathy for another human being's suffering. Nothing. Not career, not wealth, not intelligence, certainly not status. We have to feel for one another if we're going to survive with dignity. - Audrey Hepburn
The reality is that you will grieve forever. You will not 'get over' the loss of a loved one; you will learn to live with it. You will heal and you will rebuild yourself around the lose you suffered. You will be whole again but you will never be the same. Nor should you be the same nor would you want to. - Elisabeth Kubler- Ross
Lately I've been replacing my " I'm sorry" with "Thank you", like instead of "Sorry I'm late" I'll say "Thanks for waiting for me", or instead of " Sorry for being such a mess" I'll say " Thank you for loving me and caring about me unconditionally" and it's not only shifted the way I think and feel about myself but also improved my relationships with other who now get to receive my gratitude instead of my negativity. - unknown.. I have been doing this for months.. this is impactful and a game changer.. live life with love and gratitude!

It's not our job to toughen our children up to face a cruel and heartless world. It's our job to raise our children who will make the world a little less cruel and heartless. - L.R Knost

If you want your kids grow into capable, independent adults, give them space to make some decisions without you controlling their every move. Back off. Let them try. Let them fail. It's not about them always getting it right, it's about them learning not to be afraid to try. - Brooke Hampton

Your child's mental health is more important than their grades. - Unknown

Listen earnestly to anything your children want to tell you, no matter what. If you don't listen eagerly to the little stuff when they are little, they won't tell you the big stuff when they are big, because to them all of it has always been big stuff. - Catherine M. Wallace

"Grow up," we say. "Stop crying," we plead. "Be quiet," we scream. "Do as you're told," we demand. And then we wonder why there are so many adults who can't find the courage to speak, or feel, or create. Maybe there are so many wild souls in cages because we put them there. - Brooke Hampton

You can't teach creativity: all you can do is let it blossom. And it blossoms in play. - Peter Gray

"In a houseful of toddlers and pets, you can start out having a bad day, but you keep getting detoured." - Robert Brault , this is so so so true, my stress and sadness all melt away at the end of the day when I see Gabriel. So wishful think that someone will see me that way too, my loving partner, maybe.

Instant obedience and mindless compliance are poor goals, indeed, when raising children. A thoughtfully questioning, passionately curious, and humorously resourceful child who wants to know why, who delights in inventing "compromises," and who endlessly pushes the boundaries tends to grow into a thoughtful, passionate, resourceful adult who will change the world rather than being changed by the world. - L.R. Knost

If a train doesn't stop at your station, then it's not your train. - Marinanne Williamson

Your would probably is not your fault, but your healing is your responsibility. - Jason Hairston

Once a year, go some place you've never been before. - Dalai Lama

Power is the alignment of your personality with your soul - Gary Zukav

Emotional agility gives your actions greater power because they emanate from your core values and core strength. - Susan David

You may shoot me with your words. You may cut me with your eyes. You may kill me with your hatefulness. But still, like air, I'll rise. - Maya Angelou

Surround yourself with the risk takers, storytellers, creators, truth seekers, artist, adventurers and dream makers, but mostly surround yourself with the people who draw that same magic out of you. - Brooke Hampton

HOCC何韻詩 + 陳昇 + 新寶島康樂隊《愛情的槍》@高雄大港開唱2018

It is very nice to have humanly kind, loving touch again.

Stop Worrying About Your Sensitive Child "Sensitive children can be the most misunderstood. Their openness is mistaken for weakness. Their caution and reactiveness are seen as fear. Their thoughtfulness and awareness are perceived as reticence, and their introversion as lacking in social skill and self-confidence. They’re regarded as needy and deficient rather than innately blessed with an excess of perceptiveness, learning abilities, empathy, and intuition." Janet Lansbury - Elevating Child Care
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This Comic Poignantly Illustrates the New “Gender Wars”
The Healthiest People In The World Eat A Lot Of Carbs
On The Rocky Road To Adulthood, Illustrator Asks 'Am I There Yet?'
21 DAY ANXIETY CHALLENGE
Why Modern-Day Motherhood Feels So Frustrating
Craigslist Shuts Down Personals Section After Congress Passes Bill On Trafficking, fortunate and misfortunate....IRONIC
What You Need To Know About Kids' Screen Time Right Now

8 Kid Expenses That Are Not Worth The Money, According To Real Parents

Say NO to unhealthy people and patterns, and say YES to life-giving opportunities! - Henry Cloud

15 ways to tell if you are a real Portlander now, there are some truth to this. :)
Chinatowns Across The Country Face Off With Gentrification
The Fast And The Furry Us: Wes Anderson's Masterful 'Isle Of Dogs'
I Don't Care if Asians in Asia Aren't Offended by Offensive Asian Portrayals in Hollywood Movies
The new No. 1 PERS pension is a whopping $913,335 a year
More Portland high-rise apartments rented as hotel rooms; many without required permits
Elon Musk To Facebook: Mmm ... K, Bye
U.S. Military Is World’s Biggest Polluter
The Obamas Send Handwritten Letter To Parkland Students “There may be setbacks; you may sometimes feel like progress is too slow in coming. But we have no doubt you are going to make an enormous difference in the days and years to come, and we will be there for you.”

How Social Media Can Reveal Overlooked Drug Reactions
Late-Night Royalty
‘One of the most important charts about the economy this century’ -- and what it means for market volatility
Japan’s Prisons Are a Haven for Elderly Women
No rhyme or reason for noisy kids' activities in library, frustrated patron says

舌尖上的中国

When the full extent of your venality, moral turpitude, and political corruption becomes known, you will take your rightful place as a disgraced demagogue in the dustbin of history. You may scapegoat Andy McCabe, but you will not destroy America...America will triumph over you. - John O. Brennan (@JohnBrennan)

The Most Powerful Way to Build a Happy Family Today
Occupying Their Brains With Our Stupid Questions
Prevent Kids’ Sense of Entitlement With This Proven Method
But Mommy, You Were Too Busy
The Fragile Generation
Children learn more from what you do then what you teach. - unknown
Why Every Kid Should Talk Back to Their Parents
INTROVERTS DON’T HATE PEOPLE, THEY HATE SHALLOW SOCIALIZING
Boundaries, Routines and Early Bedtimes: 13 Habits That Raise Well-Adjusted Kids "It starts with us — the parents. Kids cannot even think at the maturity level needed to break a behavior cycle, let alone do anything about it. So, as the parents, it has to start with us. The foundation for well-adjusted kids always starts with us. "
My Husband Is More Important Than Our Kids
When Children Fall Apart Over the Smallest Things
Why you need to hug your kids when they’re being ‘the worst’.... when Gabe needs me the most.
娶老婆，要娶愛發脾氣的女人！ Funny.
Can Teaching Kids Mindfulness Replace Discipline?
Fruitful Forties: 4 Things To Know About Dating A Mature Woman
How one couple saved their marriage by asking each other a simple question
We have to watch it and and then look at each other.
Together we hold it close and carefully
save it, like a bubble that can disappear
if we don’t watch out. - A Valley Like This by William Stafford
To Watch the World and Then Each Other
The Nature of Human Vitality "For me, depression was not so much about being without faith or hope or love; it was, rather, not being able to remember knowing those things, not being able to imagine ever experiencing them again."
Invisibilia: We All Think We Know The People We Love. We're All Deluded; Practice "perspective-getting"; ask and listen!!!!
DIY dudes are crafting a cultural shift
Teach Kids When They’re Ready
How Does Submissive Sex Work in the Age of #MeToo?

My kind of day - 3-23-2018

I got a gem day. The kind of day that is truly terrific when you didn’t even see it coming. Not a holiday or a vacation day, I’m talking an undercover great day and I’m going to bed with the biggest smile. - Sam M.

FBI Director Defends Remarks That Chinese People In U.S. Pose Threats
Trump moves to crack down on China trade with $60 billion in tariffs on imported products
Trump Chooses Bolton for 3rd Security Adviser as Shake-Up Continues
In a U.S.-China trade war, Trump voters likely get hurt the most
Donald Trump, a Playboy Model, and a System for Concealing Infidelity
How the Survivors of Parkland Began the Never Again Movement
China urges U.S. away from 'brink' as Trump picks trade weapons
Nobody Is Left to Save the World From Trump Now
John Bolton’s Incompetence May Be More Dangerous Than His Ideology
Democrats Paid a Huge Price for Letting Unions Die
As DeVos Faces Congress, Officials Say She Hid Plans to Overhaul Department
Trump Names John Bolton As National Security Adviser
FBI Agents And The Internet Agree: The Feds Should Call Terrorism What It Is
Summons issued to Trump in case alleging he is violating emoluments clause
Poll: Most U.S. Teachers Want Gun Control, Not Guns To Carry
President Trump Orders $50 Billion Tariffs On China
Remember When Trump Said Mexico Would Pay For His Border Wall? Twitter Does.
Research Misconduct Allegations Shadow New CDC Director
Republicans agree to clarify that CDC can research gun violence
As The U.S. Debates Gun Laws, So Too Does Canada

Trevor Noah is skeptical of Trump's opioids plan. Jordan Klepper jokes 'bad' PSAs and killing drug dealers might just work.

#NationalPuppyDay: The Holiday You Didn't Know You Needed

Watch Olympia Provisions' Elias Cairo Give a TEDx Talk
How Happy Is The Country With The Biggest Gains In Happiness?
The Population Bomb Has Been Defused

We suffer more aften in imagination than in reality. - Seneca

Plastic within the 'Great Pacific Garbage Patch' is 'increasing exponentially,' scientists find
The Great Pacific Garbage Patch counts 1.8 trillion pieces of trash, mostly plastic
The Trash Patch In The Pacific Is Many Times Bigger Than We Thought
What’s your answer Nicole?
We blind tested and ranked Portland's best banh mi
WOMEN WHO ARE CHANGING THE WORLD
Washington becomes first state to ban non-stick chemicals in food packaging
Environmental initiative: Adidas sold 1 million shoes made out of ocean plastic in 2017
Study projects damage from rare Portland Hills quake, Cascadia earthquake
Microsoft makes largest corporate solar deal in U.S. history, buying 315 MW from 750,000 solar panels

Far northwest Oregon (Columbia, Clatsop, Washington and Tillamook Counties) - 2018 Easter Egg Hunts and Easter Events.org

We are perfect because of our imperfections. - Kate Tempest

Trust the wait.
Embrace the uncertainty.
Enjoy the grace & beauty of becoming.
When nothing is certain, everything is possible.
- unknown

If you want to know who your tribe is, speak your truth, then see who sticks around. Those are the people who get a spot in your blanket fort. - unknown
"The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, but on building the new." - Socrates

Your patience when you have nothing and your attitude when you have everything. - Dan L.
Follow your passion. It will lead you to your purpose. - Oprah Winfrey

Rep. Keith Ellison: "Why Shouldn't There Be a Maximum Wage?"
To understand Facebook's betrayal, just look at my mom
Disney CEO Bob Iger could earn up to $423million in compensation
White Skin, Black Emojis?
Have You Herd? Farmer Writes A Memoo Using Cows And Satellite Imagery
Bankrupt Toys "R" Us wants to pay $16 million in executive bonuses , so this is last year, when they were already under bankruptcy protection.
Decline In Hunters Threatens How U.S. Pays For Conservation
Amazon Could Acquire Toys 'R' Us. Here's Why It's a Brilliant Move
How vulture capitalists ate Toys 'R' Us. Hope you enjoyed your leveraged buyout, guys — because 33,000 workers sure didn't.

Sasse rips Trump for congratulating Putin on ‘sham’ election win
Stormy Daniels is crushing President Trump at his own game
Lie detector test indicates Stormy Daniels truthful about Trump affair
Fox News analyst quits, rips network as a “propaganda machine” in letter to colleagues
Congress Set To Unveil $1.3 Trillion Spending Bill
Cambridge Analytica's Role In Trump's 2016 Campaign Raises Potential Legal Flags
Analysis | A new undercover video raises significant questions about Cambridge Analytica’s elections work
Academic behind Facebook breach says political influence was exaggerated
In Hidden-Camera Exposé, Cambridge Analytica Executives Boast Of Role In Trump Win
What Did Cambridge Analytica Do During The 2016 Election?
Denounced by His Party as a Nazi, Arthur Jones Wins Illinois G.O.P. Congressional Primary
Holocaust denier wins GOP nomination in heavily Democratic seat
Watch the deeply uncomfortable dressing down House Democrats gave Betsy DeVos
A HURRICANE FLATTENS FACEBOOK
Facebook's Data Scandal Latest Blow To The Company's Reputation
How Trump Consultants Exploited the Facebook Data of Millions
The problem is facebook, not Cambridge analytical
Fox News contributor quits, slams network as 'propaganda machine' for Trump
Mississippi governor signs bill banning abortions after 15 weeks
Ohio GOP Introduces Bill To Ban Abortion
Boston, Lawrence mayors slam Trump’s comments in N.H.
Trump praises anti-overdose program backed by Clinton Foundation

Intentional living with love.

This Mom’s Desperate Plea To Husband For Help Is What Too Many Women Are Going Through Right Now, I was called a lazy bitch when I took a 20 mins break after dinner and I didn't do dishes. I was called a lazy guest " as who do you think you are? " by his mother, when I didn't put dishes in the sink after dinner. HELP doesn't exist.
The True Hard Work of Love and Relationships
Honor Your Heart (And Other Lessons From The Bachelor) " But the act of giving your love deserves nothing other than reciprocity and the embodied knowing that it will be received, honored, and cherished. As professor Naava Smolash says, to honor one’s needs is to challenge the socialized shame that so readily emerges when we feel unable to acknowledge our heart in fear of being unlovable ­— but feelings and needs as truth of human biology provides grounding for that process to begin... We can take these lessons when choosing the partners for our lives. What happens when we honor our needs and know we are worthy and capable of love? What happens when we humanize the easily-made villains of our nation’s media diet? We move into wholeness. We move toward a more holistic love. "
Co-Sleeping Past 6 Months Makes Moms Feel More Depressed — And Judged
Life is Too Short for Fake Cheese and Fake Friends "No judgment. No expectations. No animosity. No keeping score. Only love, acceptance and a whole lot of laughter. Life is short, and you never know what tomorrow will bring. Find friends who fill your life up with joy and support you no matter what. Just don’t waste one second of it though, by eating fake cheese."
Taste Buds Dull As People Gain Weight. Now Scientists Think They Know Why

The Toxic Effects of Shaming Children
As More Women Discover Their Anger, I'm Trying to Tame Mine
WHAT IF ALL I WANT FOR MY KIDS IS AN ORDINARY LIFE?
'Bizarre Romance' Finds Love, But Misses That Perfect Moment
Guys, We Have A Problem: How American Masculinity Creates Lonely Men
The real reason some people become addicted to drugs... probably pleasure receptor related... 'You can't fight biology with capital punishment"
Yale Research Confirms What You've Always Suspected: Nobody Is Normal
Parents, Take Back Your Weekends
TO THE WOMAN WHO WILL LOVE MY SON
Can’t we just say no to overscheduling our kids?
Parenting Doesn’t Matter
When your child’s birthday is complicated, I break down in tears for a brief moment the other day, when I realize that I may have lived long enough to meet my future DIL or any grand-children.. I am ok with that.
Esther Perel on Why Marriage After Kids Is So Hard (and How to Fix It)
The Hottest Social Scene in Town Isn’t the Singles’ Bar. It’s the Supermarket
The Five Stages of Socializing With Your Children’s Friends’ Parents

BY Jessica LaRose

We convince ourselves that life will be better after we get married, have a baby, then another. Then we are frustrated that the kids aren't old enough, and we'll be more content when they are.
After that, we're frustrated that we have teenagers to deal with. We will certainly be happy when they are out of that stage.We tell ourselves that our life will be complete when our partner gets his or her act together when we get a nicer car, are able to go on a nice holiday, when we retire.
The truth is, there's no better time to be happy than right now. If not now, when?
Your life will always be filled with challenges.
It's best to admit this to yourself and decide to be happy anyway.
A quote comes from Alfred D. Souza. He said,
"For a long time it had seemed to me that life was about to begin - real life. But there was always some obstacle in the way, something to be gotten through first, some unfinished business, time still to be served, or a debt to be paid. Then life would begin. At last it dawned on me that these obstacles were my life."
This perspective has helped me to see that there is no way to happiness. Happiness is the way.
So, treasure every moment that you have and treasure it more because you shared it with someone special, special enough to spend your time...and remember that time waits for no one.
So, stop waiting until you lose ten pounds, until you gain ten pounds, until you have kids, until your kids leave the house, until you start work, until you retire, until you get married, until you get divorced, until Friday night, until Sunday morning, until you get a new car or home, until your car or home is paid off, until spring, until summer, until winter, until your song comes on, until you've had a drink.... there is no better time than right now to be happy.
Happiness is a journey, not a destination.
Work like you don't need money,
Love like you've never been hurt,
And dance like no one's watching.

World Poetry day

To Watch the World and Then Each Other “When mornings and evenings roll along, watch how they open and close, how they invite you to the long party that your life is."

"Nothing in this world can take the place of persistence. Talent will not: nothing is more common than unsuccessful men with talent. Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education will not: the world is full of educated derelicts. Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent." - Calvin Coolidge

The natural flights of the human mind are not from pleasure to pleasure, but from hope to hope. - Samuel Johnson

Happiness and self love

A rite of passage for late life.. a 13 birthday trip it is! It will be 2027!

Saying grace at dinner time, holding hands.
what a nice connection.

March 21 is National Single Parent's Day - So happy day to all!

NATIONAL SINGLE PARENT DAY, & many others (NATIONAL SINGLE PARENT DAY – NATIONAL KICK BUTTS DAY – NATIONAL COUNTDOWN DAY – NATIONAL COMMON COURTESY DAY – NATIONAL FRAGRANCE DAY – NATIONAL CALIFORNIA STRAWBERRY DAY – NATIONAL FRENCH BREAD DAY)

"March 21st is the day set aside to observe National Single Parent Day. This day was created to honor and recognize the hard work, devotion and sacrifices of single parenting. Raising children can be challenging."
March 21 Is The Busiest Day On The U.N. Calendar

Happy birthday, mom!

Mom! Thank you. Thank you for the sacrifices you have given to raise me. Thank you for the love and support you have for us, Gabe and I , for all that we do. I have not told you enough how much I appreciate you. I don't text you enough to tell you I love you, I don't send letters and I'm terrible at birthday/Christmas gifts. I have hurt you emotionally, I have tried you mentally, I have even caused pain physically (being born, obviously). Still, you love me unconditionally and will do whatever is in your power to protect and love me and Gabe. We have grown in our relationship due to the trials and hardships we have faced, it's because of the difficult times that the good times are even sweeter. Thank you for your support, for you love, for your advice. Thank you for helping me by my side when my son was born. Thank you for being my mom. I love you.

“面對它，接受它，處理它，放下它。”~聖嚴法師《放下的幸福》
If you focus on the hurt, you will continue to suffer. If you focus on the lesson, you will continue to grow. - Unknown.

Worth watching it again... stepping into love, healing from a heartbreak...love is a collaborative work of art!

In love, we fall. We're struck, we're crushed, we swoon. We burn with passion. Love makes us crazy and makes us sick. Our hearts ache, and then they break. Talking about love in this way fundamentally shapes how we experience it, says writer Mandy Len Catron. In this talk for anyone who's ever felt crazy in love, Catron highlights a different metaphor for love that may help us find more joy -- and less suffering -- in it.

"So if love is a collaborative work of art, then love is an aesthetic experience. Love is unpredictable, love is creative, love requires communication and discipline, it is frustrating and emotionally demanding. And love involves both joy and pain. Ultimately, each experience of love is different."
"Reframing love as something I get to create with someone I admire, rather than something that just happens to me without my control or consent, is empowering. It's still hard. Love still feels totally maddening and crushing some days, and when I feel really frustrated, I have to remind myself: my job in this relationship is to talk to my partner about what I want to make together. This isn't easy, either. But it's just so much better than the alternative, which is that thing that feels like madness."
"This version of love is not about winning or losing someone's affection. Instead, it requires that you trust your partner and talk about things when trusting feels difficult, which sounds so simple, but is actually a kind of revolutionary, radical act. This is because you get to stop thinking about yourself and what you're gaining or losing in your relationship, and you get to start thinking about what you have to offer. This version of love allows us to say things like, "Hey, we're not very good collaborators. Maybe this isn't for us." Or, "That relationship was shorter than I had planned, but it was still kind of beautiful."
"The beautiful thing about the collaborative work of art is that it will not paint or draw or sculpt itself. This version of love allows us to decide what it looks like."