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Real love is intense, but its not dangerous. It’s passionate, but not abusive. It’s vulnerable, but not risky. Those who think love must feel dangerous, often grew up in homes where love was associated with destruction. There was love, but there was so much chaos attached to it that the two became internally indistinguishable. If so, our work now is to learn how to associate love with safety. Not a boring kind of safety, but the kind that is infused with genuine self-care. We set the stage for real love, when we learn how to love ourselves enough to protect ourselves from harm. - Jeff Brown