Not all traumas were cauesd by mistakes that require a lesson to avoid repeating them. In fact, most serious traumas weren't mistakes on the part of the victim. They weren't events summoned by their unconscious or their karma to teach them something they need to learn. They were victimizations. They were attacks. So let's stop telling trauma survivors that they must learn a lesson from their experiences. That's just another form of gaslighting. Sometimes there is no lesson. Sometimes, the most they can do is heal. Let's support that. - Jeff Brown, Hearticulations