Some people feel that they're being good friends, or good partners, when they give without ever asking for help. The ones who identify themselves as ' selfless givers.' But what they don't realize is that they are actually limiting the depths of the connection by keeping it a one way street. They are stealing opportunities to get closer, to deepen in intimacy. Because when we deny the other person the chance to help us, we never taste the vulnerability of receiving. And they are prevented from experiencing the delights of being there for someone they love. Giving and receiving tightens bonds. - Jeff Brown, Spiritual Graffiti