Please others, when it truly pleases you...

People-pleasing is a self-protective pattern. If we keep them happy, they won't turn on us. But it comes at a terrribly high price. Because in our fixation with keeping others happy, we undermine our own happiness. In our desire to placate others, we deny ourselves. Perhaps it's time for a new way: please others, when it truly pleases you. - Jeff Brown, Hearticulations