"If socialization processes can instill in individuals a victimhood mindset, then surely the very same processes can instill in people a personal growth mindset.
"What if we all learned at a young age that our traumas don't have to define us? That it's possible to have experienced a trauma and for victimhood to not form the core of our identity? That it's even possible to *grow* from trauma, to become a better person, to use the experiences we've had in our lives toward working to instill hope and possibility to others who were in a similar situation?
"What if we all learned that it's possible to have healthy pride for an in-group without having out-group hate? That if you expect kindness from others, it pays to be kind yourself? That no one is entitled to anything, but we all are *worthy* of being treated as human?"- Scott Barry Kaufman

Our survival adaptations are so tough, but our wounds are so delicate. To heal, we have to lift the armor carefully, it saved our lives, after all. It's like moving your best friend off to the side of the path. You don't trample on her, you don't hit him wiht a sledgehammer. You honor her presence like a warm blanket that has kept you safe and sound during wintry times. And then, when the moment is right, you get inside and stitch your wounds with the thread of love, slowly and surely, not rushing to completion, nurturing as you weave, tender and true. The healing process has a heart of its own, moving at its own delicate pace. We are such wonderous weavers. - Jeff Brown, Love it Forward