The idea that you don't have value, because someone else doesn't value you, is one of the cornerstones of the collective shame game. The moment we believe that another determines our value, they have us under lock and key. And the marketing world preys (and prays) on and intensifies our self-hatred, persistently reminding us that we must buy that one more thing in order to have worth.
We wait, sometimes for a lifetime, to finally get the approval we seek. But it seldom comes from those who withheld it. And, even if it does, it doesn't heal the core wound- our inability to value ourselves. This is the core work of most of our lives, to bust through the shame trance and find value in our existence independent of other's opinions. To love she who came into being innocent and true. To love he who wants little more than to find meaning in everyday life.
In the year to come, lets find a little more self-love. Let's take a chunk out of the wall of self-hatred that imprisons our consciousness and obstructs our destiny. It didn't serve our ancestors and it's not serving us. We are meant for so much more... - Jeff Brown

Remember that the relationship you have with yourself affects all the other. - unknown

It’s important to meet people where they are, not where we want them to be. There is a tendency, in many, to re-characterize people’s experiences without being asked. You tell them you are feeling badly, they tell you all the reasons you should feel good. You tell them you are challenged by your circumstances, they tell you what they think you can do to make things easier. You tell them that you have a plan to do something, they offer up another plan for you. There is a place for these offerings- particularly when requested- but often times they just make things worse. In fact, we are more likely to arrive at the next best place on our journeys when someone actually attunes to where we are at, without making any effort to improve upon or re-frame it. We don't need to be saved- we need to be seen. That's the healing, right there. I hear you, I see you, I honor your choices, goes a long, long way.. - Jeff Brown