If you’re not triggering someone, you’re not bringing the next paradigm. The transformation of consciousness ain’t no walk in the park. It’s a deep plunge into an ocean of icy resistance. Prepare yourself - Jeff Brown

You can't bring your voice to the world without triggering others. You can't humanifest your gifts without igniting someone's jealousy. You can't find your light without pissing someone off. It comes with the territory. - Jeff Brown

Sometimes the growthful step is to walk further into a triggering love relationship. Sometimes the growthful step is to walk away. Every difficult love relationship is an opportunity for transformation. But that doesn’t mean you have to stay. Sometimes the learning is in the leaving, the realizing that you are not where you belong, the recognition that you no longer have the energy for a labor-intensive woundmate dynamic. There is a tendency—in some psychotherapeutic circles—to assume that triggers mean that there is work to be done within the connection. Sometimes this is absolutely true. Other times, the degree of triggering is an indication that the dynamic doesn’t work. That the real work ‘to be done’ is to finally accept that this kind of relationship is impossible, or not in your best interest. After all, a relationship is not meant to be an endurance test. We often see this in connections where there are parental projections being lived out. Sometimes, we can do a lot of work in the heart of those primal patterns. We can heal some of our inner child dynamics and find peace with our past. But sometimes the healing comes from accepting that those dynamics don’t work. They’re not functional, or life-enhancing. And that it’s time to stop repeating the pattern and looking for love where it can’t be found. Sometimes the growthful step is toward a new kind of love—one that actually meets you heart-to-heart—in your healthier places. - Jeff Brown