Listen my friend, if one person doesn't want the relationship, then it's simply not a fit. No sense trying to figure out why they don't want it. No sense blaming it on their commitment issues. No sense waiting around for them to realize they wanted it after all. Because it doesn't matter why they don't want it. What matters is that you are met heart-on by a fully engaged partner. If they don't want it, because you don't want it, because you don't want to be with someone who isn't there for it fully. That's the thing about love relationship, it's an agreement that has to be signed by both souls. If one doesn't sign, then nothing has been lost. If it's not a fit for them, it's not a fit for you either.

But Dude, she DID want the relationship! She asked for it, and her soul signed on the dotted line! She can’t just break our contract!


Sure she can. Maybe she just signed on for the short term, not the long haul. Look, she’s got free choice. Maybe she needs to do this stage alone. Fact is, it doesn’t matter how much two people love one another if they’re developmentally incompatible, or if they don’t have a shared willingness to become conscious. That’s why we call it a relationship and not a loveship. Love alone isn’t enough. If you want it to last, you have to relate to each other in ways that keep the ship afloat. - Jeff Brown, An Uncommon Bond