Let go of people who are not ready to love you. This is the hardest thing you will have to do in your life and it will also be the most important thing. Stop having difficult conversations with people who don't want to change. Stop showing up to people who have no interest in your presence. I know your instinct is to do whatever you can to gain the appreciation of those around you, but it is an urge that robs your time, energy, mental and physical health.
When you start fighting for a life with joy, interest and commitment, not everyone will be ready to follow you to that place. That does not mean that you have to change who you are, it means that you should let go of people who are not ready to accompany you.
If you are excluded, insulted, forgotten or ignored by the people you give your time to, you are not doing yourself a favor by continuing to offer them your energy and your life. The truth is that you are not for everyone and not everyone is for you.
This is what makes it so special when you meet people with whom you have mutual friendship or love. You will know how precious it is because you have experienced what it is not.
The more time you spend trying to make yourself loved by someone who is not capable, the more time you waste depriving yourself of the possibility of that connection with someone else.
There are billions of people on this planet and many of them are going to meet you, at your level of interest and commitment.
The more you remain involved with people who use you as a cushion, a background option, or a therapist for their emotional healing, the longer you withdraw from the community you desire.
Maybe if you stop showing up, they won't look for you. Maybe if you stop trying, the relationship will end. Maybe if you stop texting, your phone will stay dark for weeks.
That does not mean that you ruined the relationship, it means that the only thing that sustained it was the energy that only you gave to maintain it. That is not love, it is attachment. It is wanting to give a chance to those who do not deserve it! You deserve a lot, there are people who should not be in your life, you will realize.
The most valuable thing you have in your life is your time and energy, as both are limited. What you give your time and energy to will define your existence.
When you realize this you begin to understand why you are so anxious when you spend time with people, in activities, places or situations that do not suit you and should not be near you, they rob you of energy.
You will begin to realize that the most important thing you can do for yourself and everyone around you is to protect your energy more fiercely than anything else.
Make your life a safe haven, where only people “compatible” with you are allowed.
You are not responsible for saving anyone. You are not responsible for convincing them to improve. It is not your job to exist for people and give them your life!
Because if you feel bad, if you feel obligated, you will be the root of all your problems because of your insistence, fearing that they will not return the favors you have granted. It is your only obligation to realize that you are the master of your destiny and accept the love you think you deserve. Decide that you deserve a real friendship, a true commitment and a complete love with healthy and prosperous people. Then wait and see how much everything begins to change and it will change that is for sure with positive people with good energy, do not waste time with people who are not worth it, the change will give you love, esteem, happiness and protection that you deserve. - Anthony Hopkin