Forgiveness is over-rated, unless it arises at the end of a genuine, fully worked through healing process. The backwards emphasis on forgiveness at the expense of genuine process has caused tremendous suffering. It has taken the emphasis off the victim and onto the perpetrator, seemingly indistinguishable in the New Age court of 'All-oneness'. We won't get to the Oneness if we don't honor individual process. We must be true to that first. - Jeff Brown