Be strong enough to forgive without hearing an apology. - Paulo Coelho

Sooner or later we’ve all got to let go of our past. - Dan Brown

The need for closure doesn’t just apply to relationships. The loss of a job, status, or a way of life, the death of a loved one, a pet, a dream, are other examples of painful endings. Letting go of something that was once important can be difficult, and many people seek closure in doing so. But does it actually help? And can you really expect other people to give you closure? When we seek closure we are looking for answers as to the cause of a certain loss in order to resolve the painful feelings it has created. In doing this, we appear to form a mental puzzle of what’s happened – examining each piece and its relationship to the overall puzzle. The closure is achieved when we are satisfied that the puzzle has been assembled to our satisfaction and it is, therefore, possible to move on. The truth is that WE have the power to assemble the pieces, to shape the narrative, and to tell the story.” We can forgive ourselves and the situation that impacted us.
Forgiving people isn't always about giving them another chance. It's for closure so you can move on. - Sonya Parke

In that way, forgiveness is an act of freedom.

Sharing how you feel and what's real for yoy maybe scary.. but every time you hold back truth, you make fear more important than love. This is why the depth of your ability to love will always be mirrored by your ability to be honest. It's really a simple as that. -Mark Groves

An environment that is not safe to disagree is not an environment focused on growth, it's an environment focused on control. - Wendi Jade

One moment of anger is enough to create suffering for hours. Stay calm. - Adeep

Control your anger, if you have anger towards others, they control you. - Miyamoto Musashi

Apologize to your children when you lose your cool. They don't understand why you're upset and they deserve an explanation and an apology. Dones't matter that they're little. They're little humans too. Communicating with them will make it easier for them to talk to you one day. - unknown

Do not teach your children never to be angry, teach them how to be angry. - Lyman Abbott

Whenever you care, do it with absolute full attention. If you pay half attention all the time, that's never full attention, Children are then always half hungry for attention. - Magda Gerber

Too often we forget that discipleine really means to teach, not to punish. A disciple is a student, not a recipent of behaviorial consequences. - Dr. Dan Siegel

The way we walk to our children becomes their inner voice. - Peggy Mara

Understanding yourself is power.
Loving yourself is freedom.
Forgiving yourself is peace.
Being yourself is bliss.- unknown

May I be peaceful, happy and light. - Renee

1-18-2023. thank you!

Forgive people in your life, even those who are nto sorry for their actions. Holding on to anger only hurts you, not them. - unknown

“Forgiveness is not a matter of exonerating people who have hurt you. They may not deserve exoneration. Forgiveness means cleansing your soul of the bitterness of ‘what might have been,’ ‘what should have been,’ and ‘what didn’t have to happen.’ Someone has defined forgiveness as ‘giving up all hope of having had a better past.’ What’s past is past and there is little to be gained by dwelling on it. There are perhaps no sadder people then the men and women who have a grievance against the world because of something that happened years ago and have let that memory sour their view of life ever since.” - Rabbi Harold S Kushner

It can be so helpful to express our unsaid words, anger and grief to those who have hurt us. There is no good reason to carry someone else's baggage up the mountain. It weighs us down on a journey that is already challenging enough. Better to shed it so that we can move into life with greater freedom. At the same time, we have to be sure not to make our healing dependent on how others receive our expression. Many of those we share with will be too unconscious, stubborn or defensive to take in our experience, even if we express it in the gentlest of ways. It may be too shocking to their ways of organizing reality. It may be too painful to face. Not everyone is ready or able to do the deep work that self-reflection demands. This is not to say that we hold back- we must express our truth one way or the other- but it is to say that we are best served by sharing it without expectation. The liberation lies in the expression itself. - Jeff Brown

Keep no hatred against anyone within you. Forgive all and free yourself from all mental slavery. - Adeep

The 3 hardest tasks in the world are neither physical feats or intellectual achievements, but moral acts: to return love for hate, to include the excluded, and to say, 'I was wrong.' - Sydney J. Harris

A winner rebukes and forgives; a loser is too timid to rebuke and too petty to forgive. - Sydney J. Harris

Forgiveness is not a concept. It’s a process. And, if you choose not to forgive at the end of that process, it doesn’t mean that you are unhealed. It doesn’t mean that you are a lesser human. It doesn’t mean you are not spiritual or evolved. It doesn’t mean you will come back in the next lifetime to live it out again. It may just mean that forgiveness is not actually in your integrity. The assumption that forgiving the abuser is the benchmark of a completed emotional and karmic process is the mistake. The real benchmark of resolution is whether you have gone through your emotional process authentically and have arrived at a place where the negative charge around the experience has dissipated. Perhaps you will learn some lessons, or perhaps you will eventually be legitimately liberated from the memories. Perhaps you will work it through so completely that you have very little energetic charge around the events. Or perhaps you will actually realize that forgiveness is not essential to your healing, and not your responsibility. The point is that focusing on our responsibility to forgive a wrongdoer sidetracks the whole process. Your sole responsibility is to arrive at whatever destination is true to you. - Jeff Brown

Recognizing and claiming our own value...

Everything time we don't stand down the primary abusers in our loves, we lose a little ground, we fade into the night, we die a little inside. Rising above it may be a temporary balm, but, at some point, we have to come back into our bodies and speak it. As important as it is to reach a stage of genuine forgiveness where possible, it is even more important to assert boundaries with those who have violated ours. It may well be why they came into our lives, to force us to recognize and claim our own value. - Jeff Brown, Love it Forward

Forgiveness is over-rated, unless it arises at the end of a genuine, fully worked through healing process. The backwards emphasis on forgiveness at the expense of genuine process has caused tremendous suffering. It has taken the emphasis off the victim and onto the perpetrator, seemingly indistinguishable in the New Age court of 'All-oneness'. We won't get to the Oneness if we don't honor individual process. We must be true to that first. - Jeff Brown

Motherhood is a choice you makes every day. To put someone else's happiness and wellbeing ahead of your own, to teach the hard lessons, to do the right thing even when you're not sure what the right thing is. And to forgive yourself over and over again, for doing everything wrong. - Donna Ball

When you forgive others, they may not notice, but you will heal. Forgiveness is not something we do for others; it is a goft to ourselves. - Kevin Kelly

Kindness is loaning someone your strength instead of reminding them of their weakness. - unknown

Peace requires us to surrender our illusions of control. We can love and care for others but we cannot possess our children, lovers, family, or friends. We can assist them, pray for them, and wish them well, yet in the end their happiness and suffering depend on their thoughts and actions, not on our wishes. - jack Kornfield, The Art of Forgiveness, Lovingkindness, and Peace

May you have the safety, support and courage to exit spaces that are breaking your heart, so you can enter the spaces that will honor who you. - Dr. Thema

Hating someone makes them important. Forgiving them makes them obsolete. - Karen Salmansohn

Toxic people take everything as a criticism. Expressing yourself should not be a taken as a personal attack or a criticism. - Mom Trotter

One of the greatest blocks to lovingkindness is our own sense of unworthiness. If we leave ourselves out of the circle of love and compassion, we have misunderstood. - Jack Kornfield, The art of Forgivenss, Lovingkidness, and Peace

“Always forgive your enemies; nothing annoys them so much.” ― Oscar Wilde