"If terrible things have happened to you, you are to have grown wiser. If the worst possible events have befallen you, you should be the wisest of the lot, but instead of going wise, most people become wounded. In a state of conscious response, it is possible to use any life situation, however ugly, as an opportunity for growth. But if you habitually think, I am the way I am because of someone else, you're using life situations merely as an opportunity for self-destruction or stagnation... The most horrific things in life, can be a source of nourishment if you accept, I am responsible for the way I am now. It is possible to transform the greatest adversity into a stepping stone for personal growth. If you take 100% responsibility for the way you are now, a brighter tomorrow is possible. But if you take no responsibility for the present, if you blame your parents, your friend, your husband, your girlfriend, your colleagues for the way you are, you have forsaken your future even before it comes." - Sadhguru

"If terrible things have happened to you, you may or may not have grown wiser. It really depends on how horrifying the trauma was, and whether there is any wisdom to grok from your experiences. Sometimes there is, sometimes there isn't. Sometimes it is all you can do to manage your life and heal from the trauma. By shaming those who do not extract 'wisdom' from their experience, we actually re-traumatize them. Because it is not always possible to extract 'wisdom'. Wisdom is the spiritual patriarchy's obsession, because they hide from their unresolved wounds in their quest for 'knowledge'. They hide from their own victimhood, by denying that victimhood exists. And the consequence of this message is actually re-traumatizing. Because what separates a conscious culture from an unconscious one, is the capacity to own the truth of our suffering. Putting it away, re-framing and shunning it, only serve to solidify the conditions that foster it. The wound always gets the last laugh, until we have the courage to integrate it." - Jeff Brown