Kinder to others...

People often ask me how they can become kinder to others, particularly those they love. Those who are asking have a tendency to blame, or dump their stuff onto others. Three things come to mind:

(1) Develop healthy emotional release practices, particularly with respect to unexpressed anger and frustration. Repressed anger can only result in two outcomes- anger toward the self and/or misplaced aggression towards others. Work hard to recognize when you are holding anger and to develop healthy pathways of expression. Somatic, or embodied, release practices can be helpful i.e. hitting a mattress, yelling/screaming in an empty room, The Enrealment Meditation;

(2) Meditate on the fact that you do not have the right to steal another’s peace. You may want to, because you have yet to develop the egoic strength to contain your anger and frustration, but really sit with the idea that you do not have any right to take your shit out on other people. Because they are close to you, does not grant you license to hurt them. If anything, it only grants you the right to love them. Feel deeply into those moments when others channeled their unkindness in your direction. Work with this remembrance to more fully understand what you are doing to others. Ask yourself honestly if this is what you want to be remembered for;

(3) Create the conditions for your own maturation. If you spend your life racing from one goal set to another, perpetually over-stimulated, resistant to surrender, you will stand little chance of maturing in the deep within. To mature, you have to slow down and allow yourself to come to new realizations. You have to allow yourself to integrate change. If not, you will remain the same reactive child that is acting unkindly towards those you love. Transformation is both a willful and a surrendered process. Until you learn how to surrender to reality, you won’t mature. You will stay right where you are. - Jeff Brown

KIndness melts defences.
Kindness softens edges>
Kindness piereces armour.
Kindness eradicates shame.
Kindness lightens loads.
Kindness awakens hope.
Kindness clears debris
Kindness invites connection.
Kindness opens hearts.
Kindness abridges souls.
Kindness inspires kindness.
Let us always be kind. - Jeff Brown, Soulshaping