If I had to boil down relationship challenges to a single problem, it would probably come to this...resentment.
When someone is withholding love and connection?
Resentment.
When someone resists the idea of reaching out?
Resentment.
Generosity and resentment are mutually exclusive.
Let it go, friend.
Say no in the spirit of generosity. - Stacy R.

If we don't say yest authentically, we say yes resentfully, and that leads to far more problems that if we'd said no in the first place. - Nat Lue