We've all heard we shouldn't judge, meaning we shouldn't condemn people because we never know thw whole story. But it's important not to judge the "positive" way, either. Such as making excuses or inventing stories that only allow for th egood in people to exist in our minds. Why? Because doing that blinds you to people who may be giving off red flags fo harmful behavior. That will only shock and hurt you later. It's best to suspend judgement. Ask. Observe. Ask again. Allow time to unfold the doubtful circumstances, and seek the truth of situation; not solely the bad or the good, but the reality of both. - Doe Zantamata