We are often surprised when love falls apart. It makes no sense to us- how can something so beautiful turn so ugly? But we should not be so surprised, because few of us are ready to hold love safe. Few of us are trained in the art of love. The entire world has been organized around our masks and disguises. Adaptation is our specialty. But love is a different world, one few of us have explored with any great depth. It's easy for most of us to articulate concepts, but to hearticulate feelings is another planet altogether. We are so hard on ourselves and others when love falls away, but our expectations are unrealistic. We are only at the beginning of an enheartened way. We haven't downloaded the ways of the heart. We are learning as we crawl. Best we stop beating ourselves up when it doesn't work out. There is so much left to learn - Jeff Brown