You can’t love someone you can’t see...

Shifting from a co-dependent tendency to one tha tis halthily dependent is no easy path. If you habitual pattern of relating tis to fuse to another, it can excurciating to know reality without it. Merging has become your experience of love, and anything else feels unnatural, perhas even terrifying. And yet, the only way to truly love another is from one step back. If you're in too close, you can't see them, and they can't see you. You think you're in love, but you aren't. You're in need. Because you can't love someone you can't see. So take step back, energetically and emotionally, and look closer at the person you are bonded to. Let them breathe into their separateness. And breathe into yours. Now watch love take root ont eh bridge between your hearts. - Jeff Brown