"When we approach their feelings and perspective with curiosity, and ask questions to better understand, we may even deepen our own understanding of our partners instead of rushing to hasty conclusions." - Marissa Pomerance

Couples often spend inordinate amounts of time debating facts and struggling to reconstruct and sequence stressful relationship events, leaving them no time or resources to sort out the real reason for their conflict. - Dr. Stan Tatkin

Validating invovls not just knowing what our partner is feeling, or feeling some of what our partner is feeling, but being able to see the world ( on this issue ) from our partner's eyes, to see why it makes some sense to have those feelings. Communicating all this is real validation. - Dr. John Gottman

Before You Correct Your Partner, Do This First