The whole world changes when one gets out..

It certainly feels good to imagine that the entire dysfunctional family will heal and mend. I held out ffor that vision of possibility for many years, largely because of the toxic, codependent nature of my trauma. If we suffered together, then we would rise together. But it seldom happes this way, both because of the complex nature of ancestral trauma, and because it takes so much energy and imagination to craft a healthier way of being. Most people who have been trapped beneath the rubble of family maddiess, don't have the energy, or the faith to get out from under it. It ahs become who they are. But you have to keep going. Traversing your path. You have to give yourself permission to shed the paradigm, even if it's lonely, even if you feel the temptation to go back and wait on the others. Family dynamics can be like quick sand, they may end up dragging you down with them. Stay firmly planted on your path. We need you. Because the whole world changes when one gets out. Because you are our best hope for a healthier tomorrow. I know it's difficult to get out alone, but you are never truly alone. You are raisiing the bar for all of us. - Jeff Brown, Hearticulations