The greatest defeat is not the end of a relationship, it’s the unwillingness to learn from it. Most love relationships end, yet the opportunities for growth live on. We have been conditioned to believe that endings are failures, but they are not. At this stage of human development, it’s all we can do to manage our own issues, let alone merge happily with another. We still have so much to learn about how to sustain love. The real victory is growing through the experience, clarifying and healing our issues, converting the unresolved material into the transformation at its heart. Relational success is not a tangible outcome- it's a process of awakening. If the experience grew you, if it prepared you for a more heartfelt and awakened life, it was a true victory. - Jeff Brown