Lovewins

Monday, November 28, 2016

"People are complicated. Societies and cultures are really complicated … This is not mathematics; this is biology and chemistry. These are living organisms, and it’s messy. And your job as a citizen and as a decent human being is to constantly affirm and lift up and fight for treating people with kindness and respect and understanding. And you should anticipate that at any given moment there’s going to be flare-ups of bigotry that you may have to confront, or may be inside you and you have to vanquish. And it doesn’t stop … You don’t get into a fetal position about it. You don’t start worrying about apocalypse. You say, O.K., where are the places where I can push to keep it moving forward" -Barack Obama.
Here’s What President Obama Told Sasha and Malia After Trump Won the Election

Saturday, November 26, 2016

You deserve honesty. You deserve transparency. You deserve someone who respects you enough to never lie to your heart. You deserve appreciation. You deserve loyalty. You deserve someone who would never abuse your trust. You deserve love. You deserve someone who would still be there for you even when everyone else has walked away. You deserve someone who’s real. Never settle for less. — Trent Shelton
These Brain Scans Prove You Should Study Music from a Young Age
Most people are bad at arguing. These 2 techniques will make you better.
Why Didn’t Anyone Tell Me About The Darkness?
Support Pours In For N.Y. Immigrant After Post-Election Harassment
The Stockdale Paradox: How Optimism Creates Resilience
9 Things I Was Unprepared For About Motherhood SIILL THE BEST JOB IN THE WHOLE UNIVERSE
People Who Cry During Movies Are The STRONGEST People Of All
The Disease of Being Busy
How to Sit at the Table with Those Who Hurt & Offend You
Hanging out with friends in times of stress heals us by rewiring our biology
I Refuse To Do All The Things Over The Holidays
Giving Your Heart and Selling Your Soul
Boosting Attendance In Preschool Can Start With A Knock On The Door
When The Students On Campus Have Kids Of Their Own

Friday, November 25, 2016

Federal Judge Blocks Obama Administration's Overtime Pay Rule
Benjamin Barber on Holiday Capitalism
Stephen Colbert Mocks Trump’s Petty Tweets: Can ‘Dish It Out But Can’t Take It’
Roland Martin just ended white supremacist Richard Spencer's 15 minutes of fame
Hipster Santa Is Back at Pioneer Place
UK House of Commons Members Spectacularly Humiliate Donald Trump
Seth Meyers Compares Trump to Saddam: ‘A Bullying Authoritarian’ who ‘Receives Gifts of Gold’

Happy me, happy Gabe.

“Most of my life has been spent trying to shrink myself. Trying to become smaller. Quieter. Less sensitive. Less opinionated. Less needy. Because I didn’t want to be a burden. I didn’t want to be too much or push people away. I wanted people to like me. I wanted to be cared for and valued. I wanted to be wanted. So for years, I sacrificed myself for the sake of making other people happy. And for years, I suffered. But I’m tired of suffering, and I’m done shrinking. It’s not my job to change who I am in order to become someone else’s idea of a worthwhile human being. I am worthwhile. Not because other people think I am, but because I exist, and therefore I matter. My thoughts matter. My feelings matter. My voice matters. And with or without anyone’s permission or approval, I will continue to be who I am and speak my truth. Even if it makes people angry. Even if it makes them uncomfortable. Even if they choose to leave. I refuse to shrink. I choose to take up space. I choose honor my feelings. I choose to give myself permission to get my needs met. I choose me” ~Daniel Keopke

When I chose to let you go, there was no great moment of triumph. There wasn’t an earth-shattering epiphany that changed my life, where music played and the universe conspired to bring everything together for good. There was no conflict, no turmoil and no struggle. No internal argument. No weighing of pros and cons. No decision to be analyzed to death—even by me, who cannot make a decision without weeks of obsessive thought over every possible outcome. There were only two words, when I chose to let you go: No more. No more will I measure my worth against your opinion. No more will I be pressed into the shapes you carved for me. No more will I tell my heart to quiet down, ashamed of its clatter. No more will there be blood on my feet from the eggshells I walked on as I tried not to give cause for your disapproval. No more will I anguish over the ways you misunderstood me. No more will I fight to justify the intention of my heart. No more will I beg for you to see me, the real me—to know me, to love me. No more will I live my life for you. When I chose to let you go, there was no holy encounter. The stars did not collapse from the sky and cascade into the oceans. There was no ferocious wind that rattled the walls or blazing fire that consumed all within its destructive path. There was only quiet resolution, the silent death of leaves that drift to the ground as frost begins to waste them away. And there I found myself, in the barren ground where you once stood; I came to understand there must be winter. Winter in all its loss, its grief, its letting go. There must be a time for old things to die, that new things may be born. When I chose to let you go, it was for me. I learned to love myself even when you made me feel I deserved no love. To honor my own needs, my own heart and my own potential. To walk my own path, not yours. To not be pulled back into your confines while my spirit yearned to be free. When I chose to let you go, I made coffee, ate toast, and folded clothes. I went to yoga and collected my mail and paid my bills. There was nothing out of place on the outside of my ordinary life—no visible change, nothing new or different. There was only surrender. One moment. One breath. I chose to let you go. And in doing so, I chose me. ~ Author: Kathy Parker

Thursday, November 24, 2016

Be a Decent Human Being and Don’t Go Shopping on Thanksgiving
California workers won't be getting double pay for Thanksgiving Day duty
The Story Behind Jared Kushner’s Curious Acceptance into Harvard
Tweets detailing Trump's meeting with NYT reporters emerge as total WTF moment
'Fufu' Diplomacy: How Food Is Helping Chinese See Immigrants As More Than Foreign
Golden Years, Iron Bars: Japan Sees Rise In Crime By The Elderly
How to fight amazaon.com, Best buy style.
How to talk like you are from Portland
United has created a new flying class that’s even worse than economy

Give thanks to what I have.

’ve learned a lot this year … I learned that things don’t always turn out the way you planned, or the way you think they should. And I’ve learned that there are things that go wrong that don’t always get fixed or get put back together the way they were before. I’ve learned that some broken things stay broken, and I’ve learned that you can get through bad times and keep looking for better ones, as long as you have people who love you. — Jennifer Weiner

Wednesday, November 23, 2016

Trump Abandons Promise to Lock Up Hillary Clinton
Democrats won the most votes in the election. They should act like it.
Seth Meyers Airs Out Trump Over ‘Hamilton’ Feud: It’s a ‘Distraction’ from His Real Scams
Watch Stephen Colbert’s hilarious hip hop response to Trump’s ‘Hamilton’ meltdown
Stephen Colbert Addresses Trump University Grads: ‘You’ve Been Conned by a Master’
The 3 Big Reasons Hillary Clinton Lost
Canada Phases Out Coal As Donald Trump Aims To Revive It In U.S.
How the Vote Broke, in Historical Perspective
John Oliver Explains The Problem With Saying ‘Everyone Is Going To Be OK’
Polling firm CEO: ’20 million Trump voters’ will lose time and half overtime pay under GOP plan
Pat McCrory Lost the North Carolina Governorship. Now He’s Trying to Steal It.
Montana Synagogue Requests Police Protection After Reports Of Nazi Propaganda
Trevor Noah’s Crash Course in Surviving an American Election
Just a Friendly Chat Between 2 Worried Late-Night Hosts
Jon Stewart’s Reaction to the Election Is Spot-On, If Just a Bit … Optimistic
Woman Creates Registry For White Men (Until We Figure Out What’s Going On)

Tuesday, November 22, 2016

"Be patient and tough; one day this pain will be useful to you" - Ovid
“It takes more courage to examine the dark corners of your own soul than it does for a soldier to fight on a battlefield.” - W. B. Yeats

Monday, November 21, 2016

You deserve to be deliriously happy.

Every fulfilling relationship begins with how you see your partner
The Path of Healing
How Boys' and Girls' Brains React Differently to Stress
Why Most Narcissists Devalue And Discard Their Partners
Dad Of 4 Refuses To Sugarcoat Parenting With Hilarious Instagram Posts
What If Everything You Knew About Disciplining Kids Was Wrong?
Discipline: Teaching Through Love Instead of Fear
What Happens When the Narcissist's Bubble Bursts
Why I Stopped Lying to My Daughter
Pessimism May Be Bad for Your Heart
Post-Election, Overwhelmed Facebook Users Unfriend, Cut Back
Quit Social Media. Your Career May Depend on It.
12 Things No One Will Tell You About Having A C-Section, But I Will
One of the best feelings is finally losing feelings and your attachment to somebody that isn’t good for you. - Unknown
Breathe. Exhale. Repeat: The Benefits of Controlled Breathing
I would rather be alone with dignity than in a relationship that requires me to sacrifice my self respect. ― Mandy Hale
If you want to be a better person, find something to do outside of work
I hope you don’t accept anything less than what you deserve. Run away from average love. Run like all hell. You deserve someone who will make your blood stir and cause your heart to dance. You deserve to be deliriously happy. It’s okay to be patient. It’s okay to wait for that. You’re waiting for the best and that’s nothing to apologize for. - The better man project

Giving spirit in Vancouver

4 places in Clark County with free Thanksgiving meals

Trust is built in very small moments in which one person turns towards their partner when they are in need. - Dr. John Gotten
In every disagreement in marriage, remember this one important truth: My spouse is my partner; not my enemy. We will either win together or we will lose together. - davewillis.org
The goal of communication in marriage isn't agreement, it is understanding. - Glen Sharkey

Sunday, November 20, 2016

The Importance of Being an Angry Woman
How America's Comedians Became More Intellectual than Many of Its Politicians
This mom's choice: Nurse her baby or quit the Postal ServiceSHAME ON YOU< USPS!
This election map is a lie. So we made new ones
George Takei Has PERFECT Response To Trump’s Demand That ‘Hamilton’ Apologize To Mike Pence
How fascism accumulates power by testing people
Trump Wants An Apology From Hamilton. Chrissy Teigen’s Response Is Perfect
After Trump Elected, Nearly 200 Nations Proclaim "Urgent Duty" to Implement Paris Climate Accord
21 Women Whose Dads Voted For Donald Trump Tell Their Fathers How It Made Them Feel

How to Begin: Rebuilding Life From Within.

Love yourself, unconditionally. Release your bottled up emotions. Make time for long walks, alone. Avoid living beyond your means. Nurture your inner strength. Stop apologizing for being you. Surround yourself with positive people. Embrace your situation, whatever it may be.