How to prepare yourself for love?

Can you prepare for love? Yes. You can. And you should. And no, I am not talking about hitting the gym, going on diet, skincare routines, or changing your clothes. No. That’s superficial. That might harm your chances of getting good bodies. But they won’t hurt your chances at love, real love. So what’s the preparation? It’s all within. You should become a self-aware person before you fall in love. You should know yourself. Why? Because unless you are confident with who you are, you will be tempted to change so that the other person can like you. You won’t have a genuine personality. You will be so easy to bend and twist into the shape liked by that person. And many people lose themselves for gaining a lover, especially in first love. So first, understand who you really are and be comfortable in your skin.

Second, create a life that’s about you, only you. Have dreams and goals in life. Have things that you like to do, all alone, things that make you feel happy and at peace. An aimless person will always make the lover the aim, the dream, and the goal. And that’s how you dig your own grave. Have your set of people whom you can go back to. Don’t make your lover everything in your life. You should have a life beyond a love life for you to have a healthy love life. Third, define your boundaries. What you can do or can not do. Be it your studies or your career. How much you can adjust and how much can you compromise. Beyond that, the lover or the relationship becomes toxic. Fourth, learn to respect yourself. Yes, it’s okay for your people to taunt you, roast you, or even abuse you. But know, what’s the limit. Know, where to draw the line. You should have strong love and respect for yourself. You should feel important to yourself. Why? Because without self-worth, you will always seek your worth in your lover. And you will never get it, never. Fifth, don't live a married life before marriage. Meaning? Don't think it's "forever" from the start. Let it grow with time. Let it flow. Don't weave a dream that's too delicate or even silly. Don't be negative. But don't be stupid as well. - Rahul Kaushik