Regret is a legitimate emotive response after not experiencing what was hoped for, expected, or invested in. But when regret is abandoned — left alone, only to exist on a regular feeding of misery and never gets processed — it just becomes unresolved grief set on replay, over and over again, congesting our heart and detaining other vital and life-affirming experiences from accessing our being.
There is something more for you than what never transpired. There is something other than what never came to be. After allowing regret to teach what you needed to understand about yourself — after feeling it fully, acknowledging how much it hurt — there can be a shift. A birth which peels away any blame, resentment, or need to make anyone else suffer.
In this new and pure place, we can start giving ourselves what was needed and allow space for real connections to flourish. We can look forward to fresher days and start over. Begin again with presence. Recommence real living, without our deepest regrets. Without the anguish of past disappointments. Without dragging along the weight of what was not meant to be. — Susan Frybort