Conflict is not always what it seems...

Sometimes we are angry at someone who is important to us. And sometimes, we don't get the opportunity to resolve it with them. Perhaps they have faded out at our lives, or perhaps they have passed away. This may trouble us, leaving us feeling guilty or ashamed. But we must remmeber that sometimes people wanted us to be angry with them. They wanted there to be a rift between us. It's the way that they barricaded themselves against connection. It's the way thay they avoided vulnerability. Sometimes the real issue does not lie within the conflict itself, but in the purpose that it served. Sometimes, the conflict was just their way of hiding from love. They wanted you to be angry at them, because that felt easier than being close. Conflict is not always what it seems. - Jeff Brown, Hearticulations