Saturday, December 31, 2016

12 Questions No Dad-To-Be Should Ever Ask His Pregnant Partner
What To Tell The Children
I’m a Mother, That’s Why I’ve Become a Bitch
20 Tough Truths About Life No One Wants to Admit
Co-Parenting Communication: Tips For Getting Along With Your Ex
A Tantric Masseuse on Sexual Healing
5 Simple Things Moms Can Do to Care for Themselves
5 Damaging Lies We Learn From Narcissistic Parents, "Contempt is a part of love and ‘normal’ in a relationship.' you let her continues to damage you.. shame on you.
非要歷經滄桑得到的, 才是幸福嗎?
Single dads are better dads (and control freak moms ruin fatherhood)
4 Early Signs Your Baby Will Be Sensitive — And That's Not A Bad Thing
8 Questions That Every Good Boyfriend Should Be Able To Answer
5 Harmful Narcissistic Manipulation Tactics
THE ONE THING THAT COUPLES WHO HAVE BETTER SEX DO
An Open Letter To My Friends and Family: I Am Surviving
Being Mom To A Middle Schooler Can Be The Toughest Gig Of All, dragging my feet, don't really want to miss any moment, as I know, times fly...
10 Psychological Studies That Will Change What You Think You Know About Yourself
8 Parenting Behaviors That Keep Children From Being Successful
13 Concerning Signs of Mental Illness in a Child
‘I Wasn’t Anticipating This’: Tess Holliday On The Struggle To Accept Her Post-Baby Body; not once you told me, I am beautiful in my post baby body, nope. Things were different, I wasn't a human to you.
Who You Hate Depends on How Smart You Are, Study Finds
The Key to a Good Sex Life— "Sexual Growth Beliefs"
Sex And Aural Energy
11 Ways to Be a Better Person in 2017
Man Reveals How Choosing Comfort in His 20s Led to a Terrible Life of Emptiness and Pain
When Does A Baby Recognize Their Father?
A 4 yea old has tantrum over silly problems
My Family Is A Prime Example Of The Working Poor
No Angry Kids – Fostering Emotional Literacy In Our Children

Thursday, December 29, 2016

Tuesday, December 27, 2016

5 Toxic Behaviors No One Should Tolerate
How to Be a Good Kisser – 10 Tips From Scientific Research
A history of global living conditions in 5 charts
The One Major Screw-Up That Changed My Parenting Forever
Knowing Someone Who Faced Discrimination May Affect Blood Pressure
The Autoimmune Hormone Connection
Our Kids Need to Know That Love Is Stronger Than Hate
What Normal Looks Like
The Ultimate Mom-Kid Bonding Bucket List, love it, since I am doing most of it...:)
Mothers, Teach Your Daughters To Be Kind To Their Mothers-In-Law, I will raise buy son to love his partner.. i met a monster and a his monster mom.. i will know better for my son and his future family.
We Don’t Always End Up With The Loves Of Our Lives (And That’s Okay)
Raising Boys: 7 Things Moms Need To Know About Penises
Couples That Talk About Sex Have Better Sex
How to Stop Your Runaway Toddler , this could come handy, Gabe does run a lot.
Science Says A ‘Suck It Up’ Parenting Style Kind Of Sucks
How Birth Order Can Shape Your Personality
A Mom Who Shows Up
The Classroom Where Fake News Fails
For Young Kids' Ear Infections, Longer Antibiotic Treatment Works Better
Verbal Abuse Is Real, It Counts, And It Marks You For Life
To The New Father Who Wonders What His Wife Does At Home All Day, gentle with each other.. that was a joke...
How to Speak up When Your Kids Aren’t Being Respected
Dealing With Parenting Differences Among Friends, Family And Kind Strangers, YES we are different.
The Scientific Explanation Of Why Babies Make Parents Feel High
46 Things No One Tells You About Parenting a Teenage Boy.. ok..I know it will takes awhile, well, I need times to get ready mentally.. baby is growing up fast
5 Ways My Husband’s Lazy Parenting Is Actually Great
The Magic Greeting Every Kid Should Learn Before Visiting Family
News Flash, Family: You Can Actually Do Sh*t For Yourselves Sometimes
A Child’s Fear Of Change
19 Moms Reveal The One Postpartum Physical Issue They Just Couldn't Talk About
You Can Get PTSD By Staying In An Emotionally Abusive Relationship
Meet Leonard Kim: From Homeless To Personal Branding Expert
The disturbingly accurate brain science that identifies potential criminals while they’re still toddlers
Pregnancy Changes the Brain in Ways That May Help Mothering
The Transformative Power of Kindness
12 Gift Ideas For Your Spouse If You Are On A Tight Budget
The staggering difference between rich Asian Americans and poor Asian Americans
Signs You Grew Up with a Toxic Parent

It was a circle of me and you. No room for others.

"Real love isn’t just a euphoric, spontaneous feeling—it’s a deliberate choice—a plan to love each other for better and worse, for richer and poorer, in sickness and in health." Forget About Feelings, Real Love Is A Deliberate Choice
The less you respond to negativity, the more peaceful your life become.- POP
Sometimes you just have to let go to allow better things to come into your life. - POP

Monday, December 26, 2016

34 Times Barack And Michelle Obama’s Love Made Us Weak In The Knees
Food Trends We Hope Disappear In 2017... funny
The Secret To Learning New Skills Twice As Fast
Rugelach
“The Obama administration not only failed to protect Israel against this gang-up at the UN, it colluded with it behind the scenes. Israel looks forward to working with President-elect Trump and with all our friends in Congress, Republicans and Democrats alike, to negate the harmful effects of this absurd resolution.” Obama Viciously Attacked By Trump & Israeli PM; His Response Is PERFECT

Dual Holiday Celebrations? How to Celebrate Hanukkah and Christmas Without Blowing a Gasket!
Barack Obama's remarks at his last White House Hanukkah party are just exceptional
A slave mother's love in 56 carefully stitched words
Obama Bans Drilling in Parts of the Atlantic and the Arctic

Unite to fight #Trumpism

Trump’s Latest Tweet Has Supporters OUTRAGED, Ivanka & Jared TERRIFIED
The One House Republican Who Can’t Stop Criticizing Donald Trump
This Week in Hate
The New York Times Begins A New Weekly Feature: "This Week In Hate."
Colbert Offers Trump Some Presidential Advice: Stop Blaming Others When Something Goes Wrong
Alec Baldwin: I Don't 'Hate' Trump
Melania Trump’s Latest Compliment From The Fashion World Is Just Absurd AMEN "picking on her husband’s billionaire cabinet and his seeming readiness to turn the country back towards oppression, anti-Semitism, anti-culturalism, etc"
Preparing for President Trump
History Channel makes a bold statement—totally factual—and Trump supporters are losing their minds
Samantha Bee And Glenn Beck Unite To Fight ‘Trumpism’
This Parody Perfectly Explains How Lovely It Was To Be A Woman In 2016
ROBERT REICH: RALLIES AND LIES. THIS IS HOW TYRANNY BEGINS
Samantha Bee and Glenn Beck Unite Over Trump: ‘It’s All of Us Against Trumpism’
The North Carolina GOP’s Power Grab Represents the End of Democracy
6 Complaints Sex Therapists Hear All The Time
My 2-Month-Old Daughter Was Fat-Shamed By Our Pediatrician
How to Avoid Getting Angry: 3 Secrets from Neuroscience
Talking To Toddlers – 4 Secrets That Bring You Closer
What Happens To Your Brain After Giving Birth?
I'm A Single Mom, & I'm So Sick Of Being Judged For It
7 Ways I Used To Be A Toxic Person — And How I Changed My Behavior, luckily, this is not list, but we all own distinct tendencies and bad habits that we want to shake off.. I am still work in progress.. and happier.. keep in chucking...:)...
Confession time: 7 things I let my toddler do so I could get stuff done
Doctors share important new screen time guidelines for very young children
’Love means meeting your beloved at the airport...’
“The greatest gifts you can give someone are your time, your love, and your attention.” ~ Unknown
“I think as you grow older your Christmas list gets shorter, because the things you want can’t be bought.” ~ lessonslearnedinlife.com
An Open Letter to Single Parents who are Alone on Christmas.
5 Reasons You Should Have Sex With Your Husband Every Night
18 realistic family photos. Because we know parenting isn't picture-perfect.
Co-Parenting Communication: Tips For Getting Along With Your Ex
11 Early Signs Your Kid Will Be Smart
Can Attachment Theory Explain All Our Relationships?
POSTPARTUM PRESSURE TO NOT LOOK LIKE YOU HAD A BABY, JUST AFTER HAVING A BABY.
10 Basic Rules For Posting Pictures Of My Kid On Social Media
Dear Dads: Here’s What Your Children’s Mother Really Needs From You, deep shxt!
7 Of The Most Harmful Narcissistic Manipulation Tactics, sounds about right for the duo and their toxic love+manupulation
A View From the End of Maternity Leave
8 Things a Mature Man Will Never Do
A Parent’s Field Guide To The Little Monsters Of Cold And Flu Season
What Parents of Early-Teen Boys Need to Know
7 Things Sleep Experts Want You To Know About Sleep Regressions
17 Easy Ways To Become A Happier And Calmer Person In 2017
A blog that will smooth you when you are having a bad day
America’s largest ethnic group has assimilated so well that people barely notice it
7 Things I Wish My Partner Had Said To Me Postpartum, Without Being Asked, saying thank you and you are amazing and don't call me names would have been just fine.
17 Christmas Movies You Need To Share With Your Child ASAP
Get Ready to Carve Out 89 Hours for President Obama’s Essential Reads
WHY DO SO MANY GERMANS REGRET HAVING KIDS?
Holiday gift-giving between adults is a needless, consumerist chore
Why It’s Dangerous To Claim Domestic Violence ‘Spikes’ Over The Holidays, this happened to me. Don't let it happen to people you know and love.
Millennial Parents Are Starting a New Baby-Naming Trend
The Best Last-Minute Gift Idea Ever
Dreaming of a frugal Christmas? Meet the people who’ve stopped shopping
In Slovakia, Christmas Dinner Starts In The Bathtub
In 1912, Thousands of Women Rallied Against 'Useless' Christmas Giving LOVE IT
5 Things French Moms Do That Every American Mom Should Try ... interesting...
The Best Gift You Can Give A Woman This Holiday Season? Her Reproductive Rights
3 Easy Steps To Early Potty Training Inspired By World Cultures

Sunday, December 25, 2016

Sesame Street: Elmo's Christmas Compilation

I am blessed. Today I will focus on all that is right in my life. -POP
I have one simple wish toady. I wish my friends around the world could feel happy, safe and loved. - POP
The sign of a beautiful person is that they always see the beauty in others. - Omar Suleiman

Friday, December 23, 2016

Real Love vs. Conditional Love

"Real love is 'I care how you feel '. Conditional love is 'I like how you make me feel.' I gave you real love, MVP, and you only gave me conditional love.....

Happy Festivus!

Tuesday, December 20, 2016

5 Methods To Achieve The Most Intense Tantric Intimacy
8 Signs of Stress Sickness
How Would You Rate On This 1930’s Wife Test?
The uncomfortable racial preferences revealed by online dating
What is the point of a female orgasm?
The American Dream, Quantified at Last
Business leaders agree: It's time to start talking about race in the workplace
9 million American men in prime working age can’t find jobs. I’m one of them.
Buyouts, possible layoffs coming to Boeing next year
The Best Independent Bookstores in America
I polled 1,500 people about their best relationship advice — and everyone said the same thing
What is it Like to Raise Children While Working Long Hours?
The Best Way To Buy A Car? Game Theory. That’s Right — Science.
10 Habits Of People In The Happiest Relationships, definitely learn what I missed...
10 Things People Just Don't Understand About Millennial Moms
8 Mistakes Parents Make when Raising Bilingual Children
How Bed-Sharing Affects Your Kid Later In Life
Family Vacations After Divorce: Yes or No?
11 Things Love Actually Teaches Us About Our Relationships
OMG Secrets Parents Would Never Admit Aloud

Love my bundle of joy, no matter how my brain has changed. Nothing compare to U.

How Much Is Too Much? New Study Casts Doubts On Sugar Guidelines
Pregnancy causes long-term changes to brain structure, says study
Pregnancy resculpts women's brains for at least 2 years
7 Parenting Mistakes That Can Ruin a Marriage
A Creative Alternative To Baby TV Time
5 Differences Between A Soulmate And A Life Partner
12 Stunning Photos That Prove There’s No Such Thing As ‘Men’s Work’
New York City Exhibits Explore Chinese-American Experience, Culture Through Food
Being bored is good for children - and adults. This is why
Dalai Lama: Behind Our Anxiety, the Fear of Being Unneeded
13 Illustrations That Show Love Is Not Always as It Appears
5 Simple Ways to Strengthen the Friendship in Your Marriage

“True friends are never apart; maybe in distance, but never in heart.”

It is getting so difficult...
Repeat after me: My current situation is not my permanent destination. - POP
Don't be impressed by money, followers, degrees and titles. Be impressed by kindness, integrity, humility, and generosity. - POP

Monday, December 19, 2016

12 Days of Dim Sum (12 Days of Christmas) - Only Won & Larissa Lam

ROUGH NIGHT

Baby just sleep please.... "he is not giving me a hard time, he is having a hard time...".. is there such a thing for sleep regression for a 2 years old? These 11 Bedtime Habits Will Make You Happier Every Morning
Your Toddler’s Sleep Regressions Explained
2 Year Old Sleep Regression: 5 Reasons It Happens, and 5 Tips To Cope
5 Things You Need to Know About Your 2 Year Old’s Sleep
15 Ways Parents Destroy Their Baby’s Sleep Routine

"You will always be your child's favorite toy." -- Vicki Lansky

Research Finds Parenting Style Affects Children in Unexpected Ways Acceptance.. no such thing in the duo's vocab, they are narcissists.
The Best Gift I Gave My Husband & Children that Still Impacts Us Today
3 Behaviors That Have Helped Me Be a Better Parent
32 important life lessons from 32 years
Women's brains undergo remarkable changes after they give birth, study shows, my 2 years had been extra special, dealing with an emotional abusive spouse and the heartache of a sad breakup, an abusive in law and worst, their realness legal non sense.
Parents Share Unexpected Challenges Of Having Kids
Why I Gave Up All That DIY Mommy Crap
7 fun indoor baby games to play when it’s cold outside
Parents Struggling With Boundaries – 3 Common Reasons
Guaranteed Favorite Toy
Are Americans Experiencing Collective Trauma?
6 Words That Are Guaranteed to End Picky Eating
Some Days I Just Feel Sad
Why Talking To Your Kid Like An Adult Is So Important
Doctors Say Parenting And Pot Smoking Don't Mix
The Ideal Mother Vs. The Ideal Worker
11 Things It's Still OK To Care About After Having A Baby
Legendary Physicist David Bohm on the Paradox of Communication, the Crucial Difference Between Discussion and Dialogue, and What Is Keeping Us from Listening to One Another
Does Anyone Actually Change Their Bedsheets This Often?
20 Things Every Parent Must Learn About Food During the First Three Years of Parenthood
How getting rid of ‘stuff’ saved my motherhood
7 Mind-Blowing Psychological Facts You Didn’t Know About Yourself
Happy birthday to all the lovelies..Ayako, Wing, Sherry, Mel, Ting, Tucker, Fiona, Tam, Mo. and whoever I may have forgotten.

Friday, December 16, 2016

Julbord Holiday Buffet

Hosted by Broder Söder at Nordia House
I live in a fish bowl...

#neveragain

The Narcotic of Trump
How one family's love transformed the life of this starving, neglected boy, kindness and love. What an inspiration.
Mother's Christmas present mountain gets even bigger, excessive, I would say in my way, well, but easy for me to say when Gabe gets presents all the time, no need for him to wait till Christmas, I supposed it is the opposite of minimalism?
World Map Reveals What Each Country Does Better Than Any Other; apparently Romania doesn't have any thing they are good at, do does Israel and many other countries, I guess you can say that they group HK under China?
'It Is A Dream,' Says Afghan 'Little Messi' Of Meeting His Idol
To Maintain Supply of Sex Slaves, ISIS Pushes Birth Control, I was reminded the thoughts of comfort women when I was reading ISIS's sex slaves, it is so hearbroken to think of #NEVERAGAIN
When it gets down to having to use violence, then your are playing the system's game. The establishment will irritate you - pull your beard, flick your face, to make you fight. Because once they've got your violent, then they know how to handle you. The only thing they don't know how to handle is non- violence and humor. - John Lennon

Snowmaggarten 2016

How did an inch of snow shut down Portland? Hubris and bad timing

All I want for Christmas is you.

Engaged fatherhood & motherhood

WHY I WILL NEVER IGNORE HER CRIES, I gave Gabe Love and protection and comfort, I always run to him.
An Empowering Way to Respond to Hurtful People
“Cause peace and love ain’t so far. If we nurse our wounds before they scar.” –Alicia Keys
People Who Have The Best Marriages Do This One Thing
How to Raise a Creative Child. Step One: Back Off
5 Ways to Make Love
Ten Ways To Confuse a Child
Can Trauma be Passed on through our DNA
10 Insights of Remarkable Parents from a Family Therapist
I Broke Every Rule And Fell In Love
What you should think about before you judge others
13 illustrations that help us understand the secrets to a great relationship
10 things I wish I'd known about raising a boy, I know all of them before Gabe made his debut, but I wish and hope that I will never make #6.
15 Mother-In-Law Behaviors That Deserve a Punch in the Face3, 7, 10, 14 BINGO, so so so toxic
11 Subtle Signs You Should Marry Your Partner, Even If You're Not Sure If They're Your Soulmate Or Not, I was not your priority, we were doomed from the get go.
You’ll Be Sorry – Children and Apologies
The Psychological Importance Of A Dad, sure I am sad to say that Gabe won't see the goodness of how a father should treat a mother, even if his dad is around with us. He wasn't capable in the first place, his role models in life are narcissistic, so toxic. I am glad to shield Gabe from the neg impact of how I was treated. The shame and negativity from the duo were too much to bear and so damaging to one soul. Love that I know G turned his child into his partner. I will never do that to Gabe. I will learn to bond with other adults and don't project this burden to Gabe. Gabe doesn't need to take care of me.
Actor Jason Momoa Talks Fatherhood, Climbing, and the Arts
25 Best Apps for Kids of All Ages

Thursday, December 15, 2016

Nichiren Daishonin stated: Great achievement means happiness. To subdue evil is the great achievement. To accumulate goodness is called virtue. In Buddhism, great achievement and virtue (benefit) mean attaining Buddhahood in one’s present form. (Gosho, p. 1775) Suffer what there is to suffer, enjoy what there is to enjoy. Regard both suffering and joy as facts of life and continue chanting Nam-Myoho-Renge-Kyo, no matter what happens. Then you will experience boundless joy from the Law. Strengthen your faith more than ever. (MW, Vol. 1, p. 161; Gosho, p. 991) The attainment of Buddhahood in one’s present form does not mean that we will become detached from people in the world or be without troubles or sufferings. Rather, it is the ability to live a life filled with joy, challenging various problems and powerfully resolving them. The attainment of Buddhahood in one’s present form is the life condition symbolized by the four virtues of jo, raku, ga, and jo. Jo (eternity) is an indestructible eternal life. Raku (tranquility) is a feeling of absolute (as opposed to “relative”) happiness from enjoyment in living itself. Ga (true self) is a strong and harmonious will, undisturbed by any outside influence. Jo (purity) is a pure life, unaffected by outside influences. Excerpt from Benefit and Negative Effects NST Articles and Basics of Practice

Wednesday, December 14, 2016

The many masks we wear and the ones we choose to share span the entire emotional spectrum. As humans we all hold the struggle and the joy; darkness and light; weakness and strength. It's a hell of a lot easier to show these opposites in something like sport. Much more difficult to allow the darkness to be exposed in life. Real life. So here you go, friends, the very human side of me to balance out the myriad images of the smile I've shared time and again. We are all human. Vulnerable. Afraid. Sad. Alone. And we are also resilient. Brave. Happy. Loved. Let yourself be human. Let yourself do at least one good and positive thing for yourself each day. Force yourself to when you feel you can't. Even if it's getting out of bed or washing your hair. Or letting yourself share your beautiful tears to this world. I and we are not alone in the struggle of being human. The deepest level we connect is through great struggle. Don't ever forget this. Especially in this time that is so difficult for so many. Including me. - Clara Hughes

So sad... it was never just "ever us". It was only you and your mom.

8 Signs A Marriage Won’t Last, According To Divorce Lawyers: 1; 5 & 6 were our biggest downfall
After 50 Years, Head Start Struggles With Uneven Quality
How to Strengthen Your Child’s
The big problem with early childhood education; we gonna PLAY PLAY PLAY
A Nobel Prize winner says public preschool programs should start at birth
THE SCAPEGOAT’S GUIDE TO SURVIVING NARCISSISTIC FAMILIES
15 Reasons Why Toddlers Are Such Angry Little People
Sorry, But Your Wife Actually Does Need More Sleep Than You
Happiness depends on health and friends, not money, says new study
Being Highly Empathetic Is A Blessing and A Curse
We’d All Be Healthier If We Only Worked 4 Days A Week, According To Science
15 Easy Things You Can Do That Will Help When You Feel Like Shit
Why It's 'Self-Reg,' Not Self-Control, That Matters Most For Kids
Lying Down With Your Kids Until They Fall Asleep Is Not A Bad Habit
Mental health and relationships 'key to happiness'
18 Women Photographed Without and in Full Makeup to Show You Incredible Differences, beautiful both ways, with or without make up, but what a strong contrast.
Caring For A Loved One At Home Can Have A Steep Learning Curve
Rising inequality has crushed the dream of upward mobility
How Investing In Preschool Beats The Stock Market, Hands Down
How the internet keeps poor people in poor neighborhoods
China flies nuclear bomber over South China Sea as a 'message' to Donald Trump
Kids In Spain Rebel Against Homework, And Parents Are Their Biggest Boosters
Five takeaways from Romania's parliamentary election
If Trump abandons “One China,” Beijing could arm the US’s enemies and invade Taiwan, a state paper claims
2016’s Holiday Ads Will Make You Laugh, Cry And Everything In Between
Cacio e Pepe

Tuesday, December 13, 2016

#Trumpgrets

How Trump’s Education Nominee Bent Detroit to Her Will on Charter Schools
Donald Trump, the all-knowing know-nothing
Trump’s failure to exit his business gives the Electoral College a legitimate reason to vote him down
A Guide to Donald Trump's Huge Debts—and the Conflicts They Present
13 Times Russian Hacking Came Up In The Presidential Campaign
Trump, Putin, and ExxonMobil team up to destroy the planet
Trump's Plan To Turn Public School Money Into Private School Vouchers, a private school education for Gabe is my horizon.
Definitive data on what poor people buy when they’re just given cash
Who will stand up to Donald Trump?
Trump's Presidency Is Shaping Up to Be an American Tragedy
New Tumblr Tracks People Who Are Regretful Over Their Trump Votes
Thank you, Trump voters, for this wonderful joke
What I’m doing to get my black ass ready for the next 4 years
My Family Left the United States Because of the Bush Presidency—And It Didn't Make Our Lives Any Better
Dissecting the #PizzaGate Conspiracy Theories
What Happens to a Town When Amazon Moves "Walmartization" VS. "Amazonization"
Washington State Dairy Workers Challenge Their Exemption From Overtime Pay
Rex Tillerson, Exxon C.E.O., Chosen as Secretary of State

Car seat battle begins

Rear-Facing
Reminder To Parents On New Car Seat Law That Clicks In Jan. 1
Rear-Facing Car Seats Advised at Least to Age of 2

You chose your mother.

Choose Her Every Day (Or Leave Her) I spent 5 years hurting a good woman by staying with her but never fully choosing her. I did want to be with this one. I really wanted to choose her. She was an exquisite woman, brilliant and funny and sexy and sensual. She could make my whole body laugh with her quick, dark wit and short-circuit my brain with her exotic beauty. Waking up every morning with her snuggled in my arms was my happy place. I loved her wildly. Unfortunately, as happens with many young couples, our ignorance of how to do love well quickly created stressful challenges in our relationship. Before long, once my early morning blissful reverie gave way to the strained, immature ways of our everyday life together, I would often wonder if there was another woman out there who was easier to love, and who could love me better. As the months passed and that thought reverberated more and more through my head, I chose her less and less. Every day, for five years, I chose her a little less. I stayed with her. I just stopped choosing her. We both suffered. Choosing her would have meant focusing every day on the gifts she was bringing into my life that I could be grateful for: her laughter, beauty, sensuality, playfulness, companionship, and so … much … more. Sadly, I often found it nearly impossible to embrace – or even see – what was so wildly wonderful about her. I was too focused on the anger, insecurities, demands, and other aspects of her strong personality that grated on me. The more I focused on her worst, the more I saw of it, and the more I mirrored it back to her by offering my own worst behavior. Naturally, this only magnified the strain on our relationship … which still made me choose her even less. Thus did our nasty death spiral play itself out over five years. She fought hard to make me choose her. That’s a fool’s task. You can’t make someone choose you, even when they might love you. To be fair, she didn’t fully choose me, either. The rage-fueled invective she often hurled at me was evidence enough of that. I realize now, however, that she was often angry because she didn’t feel safe with me. She felt me not choosing her every day, in my words and my actions, and she was afraid I would abandon her. Actually, I did abandon her. By not fully choosing her every day for five years, by focusing on what bothered me rather than what I adored about her, I deserted her. Like a precious fragrant flower I brought proudly into my home but then failed to water, I left her alone in countless ways to wither in the dry hot heat of our intimate relationship. I’ll never not choose another woman I love again. It’s torture for everyone. If you’re in relationship, I invite you to ask yourself this question: “Why am I choosing my partner today?” If you can’t find a satisfying answer, dig deeper and find one. It could be as simple as noticing that in your deepest heart’s truth, “I just do.” If you can’t find it today, ask yourself again tomorrow. We all have disconnected days. But if too many days go by and you just can’t connect with why you’re choosing your partner, and your relationship is rife with stress, let them go. Create the opening for another human being to show up and see them with fresh eyes and a yearning heart that will enthusiastically choose them every day. Your loved one deserves to be enthusiastically chosen. Every day. You do, too. Choose wisely. ~ written by me, Bryan Reeves

Monday, December 12, 2016

Do You Have a High Need Baby? Here’s How To Tell
Setting Children Up to Hate Reading
Five Things You Might Not Know about Attachment Between Parents and Kids
4 Love Myths That Are Hurting Your Relationship
Should Pre-K Teachers be Play-Facilitators or Play-Observers?
Fall in love with your best friend. Someone you can talk to about anything and know they’ll hold no judgement. Someone who knows the darkest parts of you and loves you anyway, that knows all your flaws and loves you not in spite of them but because of them. Not someone that you can’t live without, but someone that you don’t want to live without. Someone that you want to experience all of life’s ups and downs with. Someone who will hold your hand through the worst times of your life. When they see you at your worst, when you’re broken, and they don’t run away but help you put the pieces back together, that’s true love. - unknown
Parents, doing chores won't kill your kids
In relationships people periodically make "bids" for their partner's attention, affection, or support. People either turn toward one another after these bids or they turn away. Turning toward in the little ways is the key to long-lasting romance. — with Jani Cuono.
The Phrase That Got Me to Stop Yelling at My Kid
Avoid people who: People who mess with your head. People who intentionally and repeatedly do and say things that they know upset you. People who expect you to prioritize them but refuse to prioritize you. People who can’t and won’t apologize sincerely. Act like the victim when confronted with their abusive behavior. -unknown
"TWO COUNTRIES"
I Wish I'd Known This About Marriage In the Baby Years, in the contrary, I didn't get the credit for the first year, he didn't deserve me or us.
In the Nursery, Where Time Stands Still
Why I Won’t Get Divorced
A psychologist has honed a subliminal tactic to get what you want before you’ve asked for it
You Are F*ing Up Your Kids
30 HIlarious Tweets That Married People Understand All Too Well
Let’s Stop Idealizing the Home-Cooked Family Dinner
Why An Alpha Female Is The Best Girlfriend You’ll Ever Have
What Is Lost in a Nation That's Reading Less Literature?

Sunday, December 11, 2016

10 Dangerous Brain-Damaging Habits To Stop Immediately
11 Ways Narcissists Will Try To Manipulate You, wow, so fresh, still happening.
Zap! Magnet Study Offers Fresh Insights Into How Memory Works
New Study Reveals Moms Need A Full Year For Recovery After Giving Birth
6 Questions to Help You Recognize Codependent Relationships
Tantrums and Meltdowns – My Secret For Staying Calm When My Kids Aren’t
Porn, Sex And Marriage: What's OK, And What Isn't?
The Difference Between A Mature Relationship And An Immature Relationship
HOW TO KEEP YOUR LONG-TERM RELATIONSHIP HOT
What I Realized About Getting Older After Turning 28
It’s not you. It’s what you eat.
The Case For The ‘Just Us’ Holiday
I’ll Be Over Here Making Everything Magical And Shit
Can Your Language Influence Your Spending, Eating, and Smoking Habits?
Ticket to happiness: Research says people who go to concerts feel better about life
Study: Antibiotics Kill Gut Bacteria, Stop Growth of New Brain Cells
The Rise In C-Sections Could Be Changing Human Evolution

Moving forward! " great perception of life that you will model for your child. "

Prioritizing Marriage Is Hard, But It Benefits My Entire Family, lightning rod to my head.. I never made it to his prioritizing list, there were no core no rick or foundation. his core, his rock and his foundation were living miles and miles away and once she arrived, she was it.
Most people need Love and acceptance a lot more than they need advice. - Bob Goff (Stop fixing. Start Loving. Empathy and understanding must precede advice.) No acceptance, no kindness from you. Good luck.
Everything You Have Been Taught About Love Is A Lie. THIS is What Love Is.
17 Things That Happen When An Empath Loves A Narcissist, wow, just wow, eye openings.
THE TRUTH BEHIND THIS SEEMINGLY ADORABLE SELFIE IS WHAT PARENTING IS ALL ABOUT
The Contradiction of Living With Both Anxiety and Depression
Dads Write Powerful Affirmations for Their Daughters

Kristen Bell's Most Honest Quotes on Motherhood, Marriage and Mental Health, so SPOT ON!
I have to remind myself that I have given my best and I can't make the duo happy. It is not my fault and no way I should keep punishing myself. I have Gabe to love and take care and raise.
How To Break Your Toddler’s TV Habit
Find someone who loves you well. Someone who never belittles you. Even in the heat of an argument. Someone who is gentle with you, but does not treat you like you are fragile. Someone who knows what you are capable of, and celebrates those pieces of you. Not someone who is intimidated by your strength. Someone who can call you out for being a brat, but doesn’t make you feel guilty for being flawed. It is not love’s job to punish you. And remember the person you love is just as broken as you are when they fall short. No one is perfect – do not hold them to this standard. Find someone who is patient, forgiving, and apologetic. Someone who practices forgiveness freely and often. Love someone who is humble, kind, and empathetic. Not only with you, but with a beggar on the street, or a stranger in the supermarket. Common courtesy is important. Compassion is important. Kindness is important. - Unknown
31 reasons being a single mom is AWESOME (according to readers)
We are often let down by the most trusted people and loved by the most unexpected ones. Some make us cry for things that we haven’t done, while others ignore our faults and just see our smile. Some leave us when we need them the most, while some stay with us even when ask them to leave. The world is a mixture of people. We just need to know which hand to shake and which hand to hold! After all that’s life, learning to hold on and learning to let go. ~Unknown.
Not Wanting Kids Is Entirely Normal
A good man is a woman’s best friend. He will never stand her up and never let her down. He will reassure her when she feels insecure and comfort her after a bad day. He will inspire her to do things she never thought she could do. He will make sure she always feels as though she’s the most beautiful woman in the room and will enable her to be the most confident, sexy, seductive and invincible person alive. - unknown...a silly moment
I Parented Like The Danish For A Week & I'm Never Going Back
Pets Help People Manage The Pain Of Serious Mental Illness
Babies Destroy Marriages
Here’s What Happens in Your Brain When You Hear a Pun
a mom that shows up
There are five stages of love, but many people get stuck at the third
Our Kids Need to Know That Love Is Stronger Than Hate
A Behavioral Economist Explains Why You’re Unhappily In Love
Six Children's Books That Use Psychological Techniques to Help Kids
How to Cultivate a Growth Mindset with Your Children
When Should We Stop Letting Our Sons See Us Naked?
A Brighter Outlook Could Translate To A Longer Life
No One Ever Told Me I’d Hate My Husband, I didn't hate him, he hates me.
We Can’t End Bullying, But We Can Teach Our Kids How to Handle It
15 Types of Verbal Abuse in Relationships
Parents are buying their kids all the wrong toys
Clinton and Trump supporters really don't listen to each other on Twitter
The Victory of ‘No’
The very real consequences of fake news stories and why your brain can’t ignore them
GOP introduces plan to massively cut Social Security
Stephen Colbert to fake news conspiracy theorists: “grow the fuck up”
‘Daily Show’s’ Trevor Noah: Donald Trump Is ‘Trolling’ America With Cabinet Picks
Trevor Noah Says He Grew Up 'In The Shadow Of A Giant' (His Mom)
Trevor Noah didn't "destroy" Tomi Lahren on The Daily Show. What he did was much better.
'Liberal Rednecks' Are Killing Southern Stereotypes With Comedy

Saturday, December 10, 2016

See you soon, my boy.

I have known hardship. I have lost myself. But here I stand, still moving forward, growing stronger each day. I will never forget the harsh lessons in my life. They made me stronger. - Unknown
【全世界在乎你飛得高不高,我在乎你飛得累不累 - Joyce 鄭欣宜的故事】 美麗的故事,值得記下。 傷心的故事,更值得分享。 因為,它會讓妳學習到, 其他人如何在跌倒後,重新站起來。 請分享給,身邊仍然努力站起來的她

This makes me happy.

The Need to Read
Tweet Hilariously Turns Asian Stereotype On Its Head
U.S. Kids Far Less Likely To Out-Earn Their Parents, As Inequality Grows
Kirkland day center for homeless families could be a first step to a 24-hour shelter
Required reading: The books that students read in 28 countries around the world
Life Expectancy In U.S. Drops For First Time In Decades, Report Finds
This is the final resting place of your cast-off clothing
有些強國的窮,是窮在骨子裡
Eat It, Don't Leave It: How London Became A Leader In Anti-Food Waste

Friday, December 09, 2016

Spread love, joy, respect, tolerance, and equality around the world.

Happy Birthday!!!!

Happy birthday to my dearest son, Gabriel. Thank you for all the happiness, love & innocence that you represent & for reminding me everyday of how blessed I am & how grateful I should be. May you always be healthy & happy & live life to the fullest! Mommy will love & support you always to infinity and beyond!

The best person in the whole universe turns 2 today!!!!!

Thursday, December 08, 2016

The best day of my life, the day I met you face to face.

Life is not being rich, being popular, being highly educated or being perfect. It is about being real, being humble and being kind. - Unknown
When a door closes, knock on it a few times. But if it still doesn’t open, let it stay closed. In career, in love, in LIFE – when you see the period at the end of the sentence, don’t try and turn it into a comma. Know when something is over and move on. ~Mandy Hale.
Platinum Rule: Treat others as they want to be treated Golden Rule: Treat others as you want to be treated Silver Rule: Don't treat others as you wouldn't want to be treated - K.Swallow
"In these bodies we will live, in these bodies we will die. And where you invest your love, you invest your life." - Unknown
Readers react to the Weather Service's phallic storm tweet
“They say a person needs just three things to be truly happy in this world: someone to love, something to do, and something to hope for.” ― Tom Bodett

Tuesday, December 06, 2016

Dangerous quote, not a constructive one.. just look at President elect.

When you truly don't care what anyone thinks of you, you have reached a dangerously awesome level of freedom. - Mindful soul