Hearticulations

Don't make your healing journey dependent on anyone else's healing. You can't control that. And you can't know whether it would actually serve them to engage in a healing process at this time. May it would, or maybe it would open a pandora's box that would ravage whatever is left of them. Maybe they are keeping it under lock and key for a very good reason, because they do not have the egoic capacity or the emotional bandwidth to work it through. For some of us, it is all we can do to put it away, and go on. Otherwise we may fall apart at the seams. Better to focus on your individual process. Because breaking the generational cycle of a wounding doesn't require that our abusers and neglecters own their actions, It requires that we heal from them. - Jeff Brown, Hearticulations

Empathy is an interesting word, often mistaken for something quite different, unhealthy boundaires, not knowing where we end and the other begins. I think of hwo often I remained connected to hurtful people (and others tome, when I was hurtful), because i imagined myself empathic. And maybe I was, but that didn't mean I had to endure their madness. Our empathic capacity can be as misdirected as any other ability. Just beacuse you can feel where someone is coming from, doesn't mean that you have to put your emotional healthy at risk. When we allow 'empathy' to keep us invested in that which brings us suffering, when we confuse it with a boundaryless way of being, it morphs into misplaced faith and self-sabotage. It becomes compassion run amok.It turns a figt freely given, into a gift freely abused. Better to not turn your compassionate natiure against yourself. Empathize with humanity, but shield yourself from harm. - Jeff Brown, Hearticulations

I don't know of too many love connections that got anywhere good, when one had to 'fight' for the other. If you are fighting for love, lay down your arms and surrender. Because love meets us halfway, or nowhere at all. They will come if they wish, when they wish. And you will decide then how you feel about them. In the meantime, love yourself in every way possible. - Jeff Brown, Hearticulations

It's the greatest act of self-love to tend to your wounds and injuries. Your Loving intention is an ointment that goes straight to the heart of the trauma, and sets your healing in motion. And it does something else. Its sends the message to your wounded inner child that 9s)he has value. That 9s)he is worthy of attention. An echo of essence reverberates in the deep within, reminding you that YOU MATTER. When you repress your wounds, you validate your own insignificance. When you excavate and honor them, you empower your self-worth. You show yourself that you are worthy of love. You stand a little taller. Healing is the breakfast of champions. It nourishes your body and soul, boosts your self-concept, and strengthens your resolve. - Jeff Brown, Hearticulations

When people tell you that you are judgmental, they are judging you. And they usually tell you that when they don't like your opinion. When they like your opinion, they call it " wisdom" and " common sense." Funny how that works. - Jeff Brown, Hearticulations