An Uncommon Bond

There is a path at the heart of each love connection. Each has its own karmic blueprint. It is seldom what we imagine. You just have to find the path and follow it wherever it leads you. Some connections are meant to last a lifetime, and many aren't. Expectations are like quicksand. They keep us from arriving at our true destination. Where ever we land, may we warrive with our hearts open wide. - Jeff Brown, An Uncommon Bond.

Let there be no doubt: all love connections are not created equal. Some bonds are simply practical. Others are blindly rooted in pathology and old traumas. Still others are opportunities to heal and have essential needs finally met. And some have a mystical quality from the first meeting. Pure and simple. Apparent from the first out breath. Unmistakably sacred. God rising on the wings of their love. This is how the timely and the timeless become indistinguishable, when love meets. God deep in the heart's inner temple. Jeff Brown, An Uncommon Bond

It doesn't matter how much two people love one another if they're developmentally incompatible, or if they don't have a shared willingness to become conscious. That's why we call it a relationship and not a loveship. Love along isn't enough. If you want it to last, you have to relate to each other in ways that keep the ship afloat. - Jeff Brown, An Uncommon Bond

Your don't measure love in time. You measure love in transformation. The heart doesn't wear a watch, it's timeless. It doesn't care how long you know someone. It dines't care if you had a 40 year anniversary if there is no juice in the connection. What the heart cares about is resonance. Resonance that opens it, resonance that enlivens it, resonance that calls it home. - Jeff Brown, An Uncommon Bond

It is an odd thing to be so loved by someone sitting right in front of you, while your heart is with a ghost. Even stranger, to know that the ghost is never coming back, but her essence lives on, enlivening your spirit, reminding your from your tomb of shared memories that there is more to love than what you have settled for. - Jeff Brown, An Uncommon Bond

All too often, people lock themselves in with their own relationship fantasy, unable to face someone's unavailability. When someone who we want to be with says they're not ready, we have to accept that they're not ready. We may not like it, but they have been clear about their stage of readiness. We have a few choices in response- (1) Move on and let go; (2) Move on and remain open to the possibility that they will come back in our direction at a later time, ready and willing; (3) Remain connected with them, without expectations, respectful of what they have communicated. What we cannot do is ignore their communication and carry on as though they are ready. We cannot give them attitude when they don't meet our needs. We cannot act entitled to something that someone isn't ready to give. - Jeff Brown