Healthy boundaries aren’t walls or barbed wire fences...

Healthy boundaries aren't walls or barbed wire fences. They are gates, portals that we selectively open when it is safe and life-enhancing to do so. Sometimes we do have to wall others off, to heal, to get a taste of what it feel slike to be protected after an abundance of suffereing, but eventually we come into a scared balance. Here, we make conscious decisions as to when to open, when to clsoe. I think of it as the art of selective attachement. Rather than responding from a patternerd palce, that is too open or too clsoed, we assess each situation on its own merits. We keep gate closed, when it is unsafe to open it. We unlatch the gate, if tehre is a healthy basis for connection. Healthy boundaries are situation specific, evolving and clarifying as we grow. We sift connections through an intelligently discerning filter, only opening the gate to thsoe experiences and individuals that enhance our sacred true- path. - Jeff Brown, Grounded Spirituality