Hugs hugs hugs.. :)

We need 4 hugs a day for survival, 8 hugs a day for maintenance, 12 hugs a day for growth. -life on puropose Latest research reveals the more you hug your kids – the smarter they get
There is nothing more beautiful than someone who goes out of their way to make life beautiful for others. - The fresh quotes

Tuesday, February 27, 2018

「由始至終 只有你一位 難以代替 愛得多仔細」- 李敏

Goodnight, my love
Sleep well, my dear
I knew you, long before you were here.
If I drift out to sea
Don't look for me
I'm on the Island of Misfit Dreams
As lonely as that seems...
When you take it out and you breathe it in
And you give it all till your air is thin
And you find your heart hiding in the sink
And you look around and you look away
And you beg for mercy and cry and pray
And you take in all the mess that you made...
Oh just leave me alone here...till I don't need to be saved
You twinkle just like a star
But I know who you are
And if you bough does break
Oh the beauty in your mistake
Giving it all, giving it all, giving it all away
For free...
Teaching Our Kids to Be Losers
I’m Not A Perfect Mom, But I Am A Good Enough Mom
5 Things To Do When Your Heart Physically Hurts
釋洐空法師:愛情如股票,要知道玩法
20 'Harmless' Comments That Actually Hurt People With Anxiety
由始至終,只有你一位; 不是每一對戀人都會有默契,若能夠建立到一套僅屬於你和他所擁有默契,這是一種福氣,這說起來有點玄妙,但其實有默契的人會懂,你未說,他就懂;你才一揚眉,他已經察覺你情緒;你有委屈想訴苦,他剛好就來關心... 能夠建立獨一無二的默契是一種福氣 也需要運氣和緣份
The Promise of Self-Compassion for Stressed-Out Teens. Many in this driven generation believe they can’t move forward without beating themselves up." Self-compassion may be most critical in adolescence, when researchers say it is at its lowest levels."
Couples who follow 2 basic rules when they argue tend to be happier and stay together longer
Punishing Children for Being Human
Why You Should Never Tell Someone to Relax It’s a paradoxical fact: When someone is getting stressed out, one of the least effective things to say is “Relax.”
The One Thing No One Ever Says About Grieving "Please remember, the grief you're experiencing is yours, and you can carry it with you for as long as you like. Let go of it only when you feel ready-enough, and if you never feel ready, that’s okay."
【最自私的老公】網上公審老婆「反智、港女」, the entitlement from the wife is not what I can imagine!
你的善良必須有點鋒芒:36則讓你有態度、不委曲,深諳世故卻不世故的世道智慧, this will be an excellent book.
An Artist Sees Data So Powerful It Can Help Us Pick Better Friends
How to Maintain Friendships
Love. Pain. Regret. A Six-Part Series About Becoming a Mother
Take Your Child on a One-Hour Adventure Every Day
Not all storms come to disrupt your life, some come to clear your path. - Amen
Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to act harshly and you'll avoid doing and saying things you'll later regret. - Lori Deschene
Accept what is. Let go of what was. And have faith in what will be. -David Wolfe

Happy birthday, Vincent!

Happy birthday!
You and Your Friends Can Drink for Free for an Hour on Your Birthday at This Portland Bar
“It’s a time for reflection, for thanking those who came before or who may have helped us get to where we are today,” - Forrest Wheeler
‘Fresh Off The Boat’ Kid Stars Talk Lunar New Year, Immigrant Roots
Portland's top 10 pizzerias, ranked
“If you are humble nothing will touch you, neither praise nor disgrace, because you know what you are.” - Mother Teresa
Kindness is not an act, it is a lifestyle. - unknown
Note to self: < br /> Why on earth would you worry about the approval of someone you don't even like? You don't have that kind of time. You never did. - Nanea Hoffman
True love is about late hours of the night when it's been a long day and it's no make up, and bad hair. It's tears from laughter, it's tears from sadness and it's nothing like any storybook you've ever read. It's a never running out of things to talk about, and it's being comfortable in the silence of things. True love is never losing the magic. True love is not leaving when things get hard. - unknown
It's not about " Perfect ". It's about effort and when you bring that effort every single day, that's where transformation happens. That's how change occurs. - Pherie Joy

Sunday, February 25, 2018

Your relationships with you sets the tone for every other relationship you have. - Carol M. Barrett
“Courage is like — it’s a habitus, a habit, a virtue: you get it by courageous acts. It’s like you learn to swim by swimming. You learn courage by courting.” - Marie Maynard Daly

#goal... honestly , i did pretty good about forgiveness.

To meet someone who really hurts you, is to meet a rare and precious treasure. Hold that person in high esteem, and make full use of the oppoortuniy not eradicate you defects and make progress on the path. If you cannot yet feel the love and compassion for those who treat you badly, it is a sign that your mind has not been fully transformed, and that you need to keep working on it with increased application. - Dilgo Khyentse Rinpoche
「一根筷子容易折,一把筷子就折不斷 」,公平和正義從不會從天而降,永遠不要在強權面前屈膝,軟弱只會招來更多的侮辱,「當你遇到不公的時候,要有勇氣鬥爭。千萬別害怕,不要沉默,要大聲呼喊」。- A. Y.
"The soul always knows what to do to heal itself. The challenge is to silicon the mind. " - unknown

Saturday, February 24, 2018

Never ignore a person who loves you, cares for you, and misses you. Because one day, you might wake up from your sleep and realise that you lost the moon while counting the stars. - Jay Shetty

Friday, February 23, 2018

When Is a Child Instagram-Ready?
Problem parenting: When smartphones take the front seat
Food, family, fortune during Lunar New Year in Los Angeles
Two-thirds of San Gabriel Valley's Asian-Americans are immigrants
How Norwegians eat their way to being among The world most' healthiest people
The Restaurant Where Grandmas Cook to Share Their Cultures , Like Mother's in Portland! As I get older, my fond memories of my grandmother's cooking has grown stronger and sadder, because, I know I don't get to them anymore.
What It Means When Couples Constantly Post About Each Other On Social Media
What Parents Need To Know About Privacy In The Age Of Social Media, I am definitely always be mindful of pictures of Gabe and my loves ones. I know my family and dear friends want to see Gabe and I am respectful of Gabe's privacy. I am especially sensitive and respectful of Gabe and now, W

Daily to do list

1. let go of what I can't control.
2. let go of what doesn't serve me.
3. appreciate all the good in my life.
4. bring good to other's people lives.
5.. treat my soul like a soulmate and honor what it tells me.
6. breathe
- Karen Salmanschn

My 2018 Mantra .. SO SO SO love and powerful.

Start over my darling, be brave enough to find the life that you want and courageous enough to chase it. Then start over and love yourself the way you were always meant to. - Madelyn Beck

באהבה

באהבה LOVE

This is so fitting, the anxious feeling...... Gone... My heart is so filled with love. :)

" This morning I woke up and reminded myself that my soul is fucking beautiful, my mind is fucking powerful, and my heart is made of fucking gold, and I've got so many damn good things going for me that I literally do not need anyone who is not going to love me the way I deserved to be loved. " - unknown. AMEN!
Perhaps if tearful little boys were comforted instead of shamed, there wouldn't be so many angry men struggling to express and empathize with emotions. - Lelia Schott
How to Raise a Sweet Son in an Era of Angry Men
A psychologist explains the best way to rewire your brain to let go of negative thoughts. You already know that positive thinking leads to a more fulfilling life. That much is clear. But how do you actually think positive when your mind is consistently stuck…
Dealing with Big Feelings – Teaching Kids How to Self-Regulate, such an important skill, adults need this too..
Silent Tragedy: Every Parent Who Cares About The Future Of His/Her Child Should Read This
Opinion | The Boys Are Not All Right What do America’s mass shootings have in common? Guns, yes. But also, boys.
Alec
Can We Change The Past?
“Love is our true destiny. We do not find the meaning of life by ourselves alone. We find it with another.” – Thomas Merton
Emotional Connection: The Secret to Lasting Love
The Case for the “Self-Driven Child" "Make it your highest priority to simply enjoy your kids. As they are. Right now. Flaws and all. For the development of babies, one of the most important inputs is parents who are warm and responsive. When do you think kids outgrow that need? We think, never."
Finding Your Way Home in Anxious Times, I have not lost my way and I am still in a very very good spot.

Be someone that makes you happy!

I want to love myself so much that I no longer care what anybody else thinks. I pray for love and courage and strength to find me and hold me up for my self and Gabriel together. I am so blessed to have my support in my life. I am not alone. - me
When you’ve HAD IT.
And you LOSE IT: and the fiery monstrous beast inside of you spreads and you are transformed into a raging seething madwoman, part ashamed and part in awe of the powerful fierceness that is bellowing from within.
And then your kids start laughing 😆
Which makes you laugh 🤭
And just like that, your superpowers are stripped and you are rendered human again. And flawed. And funny. Even though IT WASN’T FUNNY!
Stripped of your power and brought back down to earth by those little rascals.
The little people, they always wield the power.
And I am glad of it.
For the power to transform one from monstrous to human, and not vice versa, is the ultimate superpower. - Dana Inouye
"Bring your whole self in and just change the world." - Aimee Johnson
The most brilliant people in life are the ones who have been through the most shit.
Tragedies, death of loved ones, countless heartbreaks, heartbreaks that truly puncture the soul.
They are wise without knowing it and that is the most pure, flawless, perfectly beautiful kind of wisdom. -Christopher Poindexter

Thursday, February 22, 2018

A dream

A dream written down with a date becomes a goal.
A goal broken down into steps becomes a plan.
A plan backed by action becomes reality. - unknown
The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.- Eleanor Roosevelt
The lantern festival is also known as the Chinese Valentine's Day!

Wednesday, February 21, 2018

Note to self: The best way to set boundaries and protect your sanity is to say no when you mean no, yes when you mean yes, and to remember that it's not your job to read minds or anticipate the needs of other adult humans. - Nanea Hoffman
The women you're becoming will cost you people, relationships, spaces, and material things. Choose her over everything. - unknown
If you knew how hard it was and how long it took to rebuild my little universe of peace and happiness then you would understand why I'm so picky about who I let in to my life. - unknown.
This is me, Gabe and I , and we are happy.
Study: This common household chore is as damaging as smoking 20 cigarettes a day
How The Children Of Working Moms Feel About Them Now, my mom definitely has set herself to be the role model of self- reliance. I hope to get to a good balance to my boy of being a working mom yet, still spending time with Gabe, playing.
There’s Never a Bad Time to Do Good Thoughts and prayers alone are not enough to end the gun violence that is claiming the lives of our children. - Life is good.
This Is Why Your Wife Is Stressed Out (Spoiler Alert: It Might Be You), this triggered so much emotions today, MVP talked me liked I was a failure in each single thing. "You have to look. Look at your house, your children, your spouse and see their splendors and their failures. Look for the chances to help before anyone asks. Look for the moments to say "I see you."
Six Styles of Parenting (And The Pros And Cons Of Each)
Toddler Milks: Filling A Nutritional Need Or A Marketing Niche?
What Is Your Love Style?
How to Have a Better Relationship Romantic: Based on passion and sexual attraction Best Friends: Fondness and deep affection Logical: Practical feelings based on shared values, financial goals, religion etc. Playful: Feelings evoked by flirtation or feeling challenged Possessive: Jealousy and obsession Unselfish: Nurturing, kindness, and sacrifice
8 Ways to Have a Better Relationship in 2018
How to Build Resilience in Midlife. There are active steps you can take during and after a crisis to speed your emotional recovery
Infographic – The Preschooler Personality @ Dr. Deborah McNamara . The secret to taking care of preschoolers is to understand their immaturity isn’t a mistake but part of their developmental design. This infographic summarizes the characteristics that often frustrate or baffle adults but are part of the preschooler’s nature.
9 ways to help boys form the close friendships they crave
Mama, when you feel defeated. You're doing enough. You're not alone. And you're amazing, mama.
Your phone won't feel bad if you don't pay attention to it. It won't care if you haven't played with it in a while. It won't mind if you don't hold it. Your cell phone will be small forever; your children will not. - Kim Uliana
How to Train Your Mind to Recognize the Love All Around You
"I choose to live by choice, not by chance. To make changes, not excuses. To be motivated, not manipulated. To be useful, not used. To excel, not compete. I choose self esteem, not self pity. I choose to listen to my inner voice. Not the random opinions of others." - CharlesGlassmanMD.com
"Childhood is not a race to see how quickly a child can read, write, and count. It is a small window of time to learn and develop at the pace that is right for each individual child. Earlier is not better." - Magda Gerber
“You just do it. You force yourself to get up. You force yourself to put one foot before the other, and darn it, you refuse to let it get to you. You fight. You cry. You curse. Then you go about the business of living. That’s how I’ve done it. There’s no other way.” ~Elizabeth Taylor
When Life Gets Hard: Keep Moving Forward, One Step at a Time
"Loving someone despite their faults, failings, or character defects, is the most powerful loving thing you can do." - Kristen Bell
Turns Out That Opposites Don’t Attract After All
How to Raise a Sweet Son in an Era of Angry Men SWEETPEAS, “Sweet boys grow up to be men who recognize the strength in being vulnerable and empathetic. Men who aren’t threatened by criticism or perceived competition from people whom they deem “Other” — be it skin color or sexual orientation or religion or education or whatever. Sweet boys are children who’ve been given, by their parents and wider society, the permission to feel everything and to express those emotions without shame.”
“Raise your words, not your voice. It is rain that grows flowers, not thunder.” ~Rumi
Happiness is the new rich.
Inner peace is the new success.
Health is the new wealth.
Kindess is the new cool. - P.O.

梅艷芳-【女人心】-sad

看著眼前人漸散 而在那喧嘩過後
只有忽然倦透的 是我的一對手
努力向前誰沒有 誰料歇息的藉口
是要把抑鬱眼淚再流
誰自願獨立於天地 痛了也讓人看
你我卻須要 在人前被仰望
連造夢亦未敢想像 我會這樣硬朗
但是又怎可 使你或我失望
看著眼前人睡了 和幸福多接近
等了多年這角色 做你的女人
我沒有權來令你 承受太多的情感
但我始終不過是個人
但我始終不過是個人
Who is wise? He who learns from everyone. - Jewish Proverb

李宗盛 梁靜茹 當愛已成往事 , 明明白白我的心

Need to leave the past behind to make room for new beginning...

明明白白我的心 渴望一份真感情
曾經為愛傷透了心 為什麼甜蜜的夢容易醒
妳有一雙溫柔的眼睛 妳有善解人意的心靈
如果妳願意 請讓我靠近 我想妳會明白我的心 哦~
星光燦爛風兒輕 最是寂寞女兒心
告別舊日戀情 把那創傷撫平 不再流淚到天明

“Our heart might be broken but we do not have to break with it.”- Guy Winch


My heart breaks start June 2014... now I Know.. but it ends August 2017.. I am alive again. 'How To Fix A Broken Heart' Will Completely Change The Way You Think About Healing & Moving On
"Change was hard at first, messy in the middle, and gorgeous in the end."- Robbie Sharma
"We are not talking about Second Amendment rights or restricting your ability to own a firearm. We are talking about a public health crisis that our Congress has failed to address. This must end." - American Medical Association President David Barbe
We travel not to escape life, but for life not to escape us. - unknown
"Doubt kills more dream than failure ever will."- Suzy Kassem
” The call to speak is often a vocation of agony, but we must speak “ – Martin Luther King Jr.
The human soul doesn’t want to be advised or fixed or saved. It simply wants to be witnessed — to be seen, heard and companioned exactly as it is. - Parker Palmer The Gift of Presence, The Perils of Advice

Sunday, February 18, 2018

There are rare people who will show up at the right time, help you through the hard times and stay into your best times. .. those are the keepers. - Nausicaa Twila
LIVE SIMPLY, SPEAK KINDLY, CARE DEEPLY, and LOVE GENEROUSLY. - T.L.
"Never stop dreaming." - Paul Coelho, the Alchemist

I'm Willing For you 我愿意为你

Missing you is so mysterious
that it occupies my heart
imperceptibly
it is something unknown
that haunts me every night
it swallows me
and makes me feel so lonely
i can't take it
i long for you
late at night i thinke of you
i miss you so much
that i can not breathe
i feel like running to you
telling you now how much i love you
oh..for you
i would do anything for you
anything for you
i am ready to forget even my name
just to stay in your arms
even for seconds only
i don't care even if i'll lose everything
oh..for you
i would do anything for you
anything for you
i am ready to forget even my name
as long as you love me
with the same sincerity
i am willing to do anything for you
anything for you

Saturday, February 17, 2018

Happy National Random Acts off Kindness Day!

Why stop at a day, when every day gives us the opportunity to be kind? Happy National Random Acts off Kindness Day!
2017 Video from US Consulate in HK The Sea Gals are going to Hong Kong! They show us part of the dance routine they'll be performing. Prime Minister Trudeau offers greetings on the occasion of the Chinese New Year

Friday, February 16, 2018

"My vision for 2018 is simple: I desire compassion over destruction and connection over celebrity. In these times, it's our relationships that will keep us together and will keep us alive."

Women Surround Crying Mom Whose Toddler Was Having A Meltdown At The Airport
The Emotional Undercurrents That Children Understand
Teaching your Kids what to do in an Active Shooter Situation
The same people that did you wrong are telling a different version of the story and they're playing the victim. - PMAI
10 Things Parents Of ‘Normal’ Kids Should Know
It’s Official: Too Many Family Rules Make Tired And Angry Parents
Dear Courtney: Our Shared Journey Toward Imperfect Wholeness
To Live and To Love in Birdsong
Giving Toddlers Fewer Toys Makes One Major Difference to Their Playtime
4 Ways to Find Compassion for Your Kids When They're Driving You Nuts , I have been working harder to find those compassion within me.
Stop telling kids to "be careful" and what to say instead
May We Cherish A Love That is Raw, Gritty, and Real "Look at who is around you. You may well find that you are in fact surrounded by love, but a love that is in a different guise than romantic love. It may well be that you are not loveless, but quite loved. Look around you and find the sentient beings that give you love and receive your love, be it an old friend, a parent, a child, a pet." yes , I am grateful, thank you! “So let us love. Let us hang on to what propels us beyond our own ego, and dedicates us to the care of another. Let us recognize this love as tenderness inwardly, and justice out in public.” “It matters not whom you love, where you love, why you love, when you love or how you love. It matters only that you love.”
The Opposite Of Addiction is Connection, very interesting..
"You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them." Maya Angelou
Self-Love Is an Adventure, Not a Destination
Our Relationships Keep Us Alive: Let's Prioritize Them in 2018
The Key To Raising A Happy Child
Brandi Carlile On Practicing Forgiveness, Even When It's Hard
Trust is choosing to make something important to you vulnerable to the actions of someone else. - Charles Feltman, The Thin Book of Trust; An Essential Primer for Building Trust at Work
Love yourself for all that you haven't yet manifested. For all the experiences that have yet to claim you as their vehicle. For all the ways in which the empty spaces in your life are trying to teach you how to have compassion for yourself. - Chani Nicholas
When people were killed by cars, we didn’t say it was a bad driving problem, we agreed as a society that it was a car problem. When babies were born mutated because of dangerous medicine, we didn’t call it a fertility problem, we called it a certain prescription drug problem. When AIDS began to take lives, we didn’t call it a lust problem, we called it an unprotected sex problem. Yet as guns kill innocent people, including kids in school, our society says the problem is bad people, not guns. I am saddened and ashamed of my fellow man. - Jeff. M
You deserve someone who loves you with every single beat of his heart. Someone who can help you reach your dreams and who can protect you from your fears You need someone who will treat you with respect, love every part of you, especially your flaws. You should be with someone who can make you happy, really happy, dancing on air happy. Someone who should have taken the chance to be with you years ago instead of becoming scared and being too afraid to try. - Cecelia Ahern

I hope you will choose to love yourself more than you ever have done. I hope you will choose to honor the genius of your body and take care of it like you would do a most beautiful flower in your garden. Be your own valentine today, despite whether you have someone to spend it with. Your hearts needs your love before it needs anyone's else. Your own pure and timeless love is what your deserve. And every other beautiful thing too. And once you do love yourself you will only attract the finest love into your life. But you won't feel dependent and needy for it, because you'll finally realize you need no one to complete you. You're perfect as you are. - S.C. Lourie

💕 Imagine a relationship where appreciation and acknowledgement are the norm
💕 Imagine breezing through your days without conflict, because all the “little things” are effortlessly addressed
💕 And imagine doing all this without having to change who you are
Trump Calls For Mental Health Action After Shooting; His Budget Would Cut Programs
Trump's Inauguration: Record Spending Leaves Little For Charities
Florida suspect took part in white nationalist militia, leader says
Florida School Shooting Suspect Belonged To White Nationalist Group
Kimmel Writer Calls Out GOP In Blistering Replies To ‘Prayers’ After Florida Shooting
Opinion | The Congress Members Receiving the Most N.R.A. Funding
What Explains U.S. Mass Shootings? International Comparisons Suggest an Answer
Trump Repeals Rule Designed To Block Gun Sales To Certain Mentally Ill People
Is There Any Way For Schools To Prevent Shootings?
Trump's Military Parade Could Cost As Much As $50 Million
Deaths From Gun Violence: How The U.S. Compares To The Rest Of The World
Inspector: 'Serious Derelictions' By VA Secretary Related To Overseas Travel, crook! Are you draining the swamp?
Immigration Push Hits A Wall As Senate Deadline Nears
Trump Administration Sued Over Ending Funding Of Teen Pregnancy Programs
Top EPA Science Adviser Has History Of Questioning Pollution Research
An immigrant mother's plea: 'Send me back. But don't take my kids.'
With eye on Soros, Hungary considers ban on pro-immigration groups
Conservatives Warn Speaker Ryan To Hold The Line On Immigration
Follow along: Forms, fees and an interview for a US Diversity Lottery Program 'winner'
Senate reaches bipartisan DACA deal, but Trump vows to veto anything short of his demands
You're a young student and your visa is tied to your parents. You're about to age out. What do you do next?

#affirmation

It is safe and comfortable for me to love and be loved.
It's not only children who grow. Parents do too. As much as we watch to see what our children do with their lives, they are watching us to see what we do with ours. I can't tell my children to reach for the sun. All I can do is reach for it, myself. - Joyce Maynard
Sometimes you need to talk with a three year old so you can understand life again. - The daily parent

Happy Love day!

8 Ways to Have a Better Relationship in 2018
"Love is an activity, not a passive affect; it is a "standing in", not a "falling for". In the most general way, the active character of love can be described by stating that love is primarily giving, not receiving." - Erich Fromm, German Psychoanalyst LET’S GET RID OF VALENTINE’S DAY AND REPLACE IT WITH SECOND HALLOWEEN
Mirroring: The Body Language of Love and Attraction
Woman Gets Great Gifts For Valentine’s Day, Does Not Post Them On Facebook
For Valentine's Day, Romance Writers Share Their Favorite Moments
Strong Back, Soft Front, Wild Heart
"When we’re our best selves with each other, I don’t think that’s what’s possible between people; I believe that’s what’s true between people." -Brené Brown
23 Valentine's Day dishes that say 'I love you' with flair
A Podcast Playlist For All Those Looking For Love (Stories)
Your Besotted Brain: A Neuroscience Love Song
Living is the art of loving. Loving is the art of caring. Caring is the art of sharing. Sharing is the art of living. If you want to lift yourself up, lift up someone else. - Dr. Booker T. Washington.
Happy birthday, Oregon!
No person is your friend who demands your silence, or denies your right to grow.- Alice Walker

I found love.

I have been down the road before, there were genuine happiness from those memories. Life is good and we are loved, cared and missed. Thank you.