They may forget what you said, but they will never forget how you made them feel. – Carl W. Buechner
"Nearly all men can stand adversity, but if you want to test a man's character, give him power." - Abraham Lincoln

An odd day for remembrance.

The love is here, it never went away. People made poor choice that we couldn't control, but we were persuaded, influenced. In the end, we suffered. Just Do Right. Would have been 3rd.
'Be A Rainbow In Somebody Else’s Cloud’ -Maya Angelou
Good Questions “And did you get what you wanted out of life, even so?” 「即便如此,今生今世,你是否已經了無遺憾?」 Wait, What? I Wonder? - I wonder why? - I wonder if? Couldn't we at least? How can I help? What truly matters [to me]? Understanding Curiosity Progress Relationships The Heart of Life .「等等,你說什麼?」,是所有了解的根源。 .「我想知道……?」,是所有好奇心的核心。 .「至少,我們是不是能夠……?」,是所有進展的開始。 .「我能夠幫什麼忙?」,是所有良好關係的基礎。 .「真正重要的是什麼?」,能夠幫助我們找到生命的核心。
What "Orwellian" really means - Noah Tavlin
25 REASONS YOU'RE THE JERK PARENT
10+ Brutal Comics With Unexpected Endings That Only People With A Dark Sense Of Humor Will Understand
Tedtalk Create a life in purpose 精算人生三題 How Will You Measure Your Life?
This Travel Gadget Turns Airplane Seats Into Beds for Toddlers
Clutterless Living
Don't buy my kids more toys, Try this istead.
"Stop asking the world for permission and being today to give the world notice. Become non-negotiable." - Lisa Nichols

Warm Spring, OR, a special place in my heart.

2,000-acre wildfire erupts near Warm Springs casino; 5 years ago, I was there to get a kiss from you, then 3 years later, I was there and got a ring from you. Now all shall pass. And it will eventually, be a special place for our child.
Real love doesn't meet you at your best. It meets you in your mess. - J.S. Park

Sunday, June 25, 2017

The Danish Practice That Will Up Your Family’s Happiness Factor
What To Do When Our Emotions Get the Best of Us: Practical Tools to Ground Us (Part Two)
58 Free or Cheap Summer Activities for Seattle-Area Kids and Families
Warning to parents: Snapchat now shares your child's exact location
The iPad is a Far Bigger Threat to Our Children Than Anyone Realizes.
CHOOSING TO GO: ACCEPTING RISK AS A SINGLE MOM
The Weirdest Parenting Advice We've Tried the Past 100 Years
29 Hilariously Dumb Reasons Your Kid Thinks You're A Jerk
New Oregon law allows people to break car windows to save kids, animals
Sleep Is A Luxury And 19 Other Things I Learned During My First Year As A Dad
Want Compassionate, Confident Kids? Do This
Denmark Doctors Declare Circumcision Of Healthy Boys ‘Ethically Unacceptable’
Feed Your Kids Peanuts, Early and Often, New Guidelines Urge
It’s your job to love your kids + set limits—not to entertain them
A viral photo of a calm dad and a screaming toddler holds an important parenting lesson.
Mom’s Viral Post Sums Up Why Parenting Used To Be Easier
We Should Let Our Kids Go Barefoot As Often As Possible (Thanks, Science!)
9 ways parents can help bullied kids learn resilience
I don’t want obedient children
19 Hidden Horrors Of Parenting No One Tells You About
Toddler gets stuck inside a dollhouse and luckily mom's there to film it
Jessica Biel’s Too-Real Instagram Sums Up The Life Of A Working Mom
21 photos which prove that having kids can be seriously fun
The Problem With The ‘Eat It Or Starve’ Argument Is That Some Kids Will Literally Starve
16 Tips for Surviving The Toddler Years
"Our thoughts shape our spaces and our spaces return the favor" -steven Johnson

Thursday, June 22, 2017

Joking aside, this does remind of my sweet pea.

6.22.2017

1000 days! Love you to the moon and back!
Five Ways to be Fully Authentic
Why I Suspect My Laid-Back Parenting Was the Right Approach
8 Simple Reasons Why Men Avoid Ideal Women
5 Surprising Facts About Women on Maternity Leave
Swim lessons for infants sound absurd. But they could save your baby’s life.
考四次空姐終擺脫寫字樓人生:喜歡不斷逃離又回來..it was a dream once.. if you find your calling.. you should go for it.. I found my calling..I am a mother.
Parents won't pay for Harvard after a year off to help the poor
Knowing when to quit
The One Problem With Raising A Montessori Kid That No One Talks About PATIENCE!
10 Things Emotionally Neglected Kids Grow Up Believing - That Are NOT True.. thank you...
The philosophy of Stoicism - Massimo Pigliucci
Rethinking the 12-week rule: Why do we make mums do the hardest weeks alone?
Fetuses Can Recognize Faces. How Will This Change the Abortion Debate?
How Souls Choose Their Parents and Families
Raising a Montessori Kid: 75 Easy Ways to Montessori Parenting; I think I am adapting.. I am learning ways to balance.. and yet do not compromise the time, love and effort that I put in to Gabe's and my life together.
A letter to moms, love Joanna Gaines
Fathers Need To Show Mothers Love Through Their Actions, yup he showed enough...
Raising a 'no-diaper' baby is possible, but not easy for all, doctors say... I totally agree if you can raise the child that way..at least based on personal and cultural experience
A true feminist life
What are appropriate consequences for bad behavior?
THIS ISN’T HAPPINESS: THE HEARTBREAK, DEPRESSION AND EMPTY SEX OF MODERN LOVE
13 comics use 'science' to hilariously illustrate the frustrations of parenting.
Sweden’s gender-neutral preschools produce kids who are more likely to succeed
America Is Now a ‘Second Tier’ Country
What no one ever tells you about Tiny Homes
China, where the pressure to marry is strong, and the advice flows online
Why Is China Snatching Up Australian Farmland?
A Native Village In Alaska Where The Past Is Key To The Future
Tourism soaring despite Portland's homeless crisis
25-Plus (Truly) Kid-Friendly Portland Restaurants
Nut Allergy-Friendly Restaurants in Portland
Portland’s Most Kid-Friendly Restaurants
One woman photographed all 626 of her Facebook friends. Here are 5 of them
The Best And Worst Places To Be A Kid "All the countries in the top 10 are in Europe (except for South Korea, which is tied for the No. 10 slot with Cyprus, Germany and Belgium). The U.S. came in at No. 36. It didn't make the Top 10 because the United States doesn't spend as much on early childhood education and other social programs for children. The nations found to be the 10 worst places for kids are in Central and West Africa, where hundreds of thousands of children die each year from malaria and diarrhea. Angola, the second largest oil producer in Africa, ranked as the second worst place in the world to be a child."
“What is true for us tends to make us feel stronger and more free. And lies tend to feel like constraint and constriction.” ―Christine Carter

Wednesday, June 21, 2017

"Your legacy is every life you've touched." - Oprah Winfrey
Trump in free fall after only five months
Trump's Business Empire: An Update On His Sources Of Revenue
Trump's silence after attack on Muslims speaks volumes
林鄭月娥的EO型新政府
Donald Trump boasts about construction of Panama Canal before being reminded it was built 100 years ago
Rep. Steve Scalise' life was saved by a Black Queer woman. Here's why that matters.
Ford Chooses China, Not Mexico, to Build Its New Focus
Seattle Shooting Raises Questions About Officers' De-Escalation Efforts, this is an extremely sad situation.. I wish those 3 children did not lose their mothers.
Trump May Have A Lot Of Money, But Documents Show He Owes A Lot, Too
Trump Not Under Investigation for Obstruction, Lawyer Says
President Donald Trump, Unreliable Narrator
Newt Gingrich Says ‘Pugnacious’ Donald Trump Has ‘Compulsion’ To Counterattack
Why Time Is Already Running Out For Trump And His Congress
Trump boasts he is more popular than Obama despite ‘distraction of Witch Hunt’ in early morning tweetstorm
America’s Amazon Problem
Trump’s Derangement Deepens
He Had No Business Becoming President
Trump Confirms He Is Under Investigation And Blames His Own Justice Department
Trump Confirms He Is Under Investigation And Blames His Own Justice Department
Deputy Attorney General Rod Rosenstein acknowledges he may need to recuse himself from Russia probe, sources say
140 characters in search of an editor: The tweets that will haunt Donald Trump
Special Counsel Robert Mueller Investigating Jared Kushner’s Finances
Trump submits financial information detailing trust assets
Donald Trump’s Attorney Marc Kasowitz Hit With Ethics Complaints
Trump, Kushner family partner a finalist for $1.7 billion contract to build FBI headquarters crooks!
Everything we know about President Trump’s obstruction of justice scandal
Jared & Ivanka’s Guide to Mindful Marriage

Tuesday, June 20, 2017

Summer Solstice!

Happy summer!\

Life is 10 % what happens to you and 90% how you react to it.- Charles R Swindoll

Are single parent families whole families? YES, absolutely.. our value as a family did not diminish. "My family is complete, and yours is, too."
The Terrors of Being Loved
You Know You’re In Love When Home Becomes A Person, Not A Place
4 Best Ways To Raise Children With Social Intelligence
11 Early Signs Your Kid Will Be Smart...sure
FIVE REASONS I LOVE MY EX-HUSBAND
Why single moms don’t get to celebrate Father’s Day
I Used To Hold Myself To The Standards Of A 1950s Housewife (Then I Woke Up)
Things No One Tells You Will Happen to Your Lady Parts After Childbirth Yup yup yup.. pretty sad then when you were address with the C-nt word from the father of your child. No one deserves that! The level of hate and disrespect.
SAYING GOODBYE: CUSTODY TRANSITION DO’S AND DONT’S
The scientific evidence against spanking, timeouts, and sleep training
The One Phrase I Wish We Could Ban From Mom Conversations
The Day I Decided To Stay In My Marriage.. I have no way to know it would get better overtime.. i was determined to leave the toxics..
Why Kids Need Minimalism
14 Illustrations Showing How Desperately We Want to Get In Shape
The Best Age To Have A Baby Will Chill Out Your Annoying Biological Clock
Stop Calling Children Nasty Names RESPECT
Everything You Need To Know About Parenting In 12 Jim Gaffigan Quotes
I settled down in my 20's, and I'm regretting in my 30's. "I am a kinder person because I know how it feels to have someone be unkind. I respect all people. I try to always put myself in someone else’s shoes before I speak or judge because I know how it feels to be judged by those who thought they knew my story."
What No One Tells You About Marriage
7 Things You Do Every Day That'll Make Your Baby Less Angry Later In Life
Why you should ALWAYS comfort a child – no matter why they’re crying
How your relationship with your dad affects your love life..maybe I was doomed.. i picked a dude that is cold and distant.. and hold conditioned love.. like my dad...
Share More Real Parenting
BRAIN STARVATION: COULD BOYS BE SUFFERING? LOVE THIS ARTICLE.. LEARN SO MUCH!
The genius in people with learning disabilities, mental health disorders
How My Parents’ Divorce Made Me A More Dedicated Parent People fought, yet some sticked together.. we didn't.. sad in a way.. so self absorbed.. one might say.. the best thing happen in my life bought out the worst in his Dad's life.. I guess that is the irony.
Having My Own Life Makes Me a Better Parent
Viral Post Reminds Us Just How Much We Need Our Girlfriends
CEO Of eHarmony Says You And Your Partner Must Be Compatible On These 4 Traits; I think he is spot on!

Monday, June 19, 2017

5 Signs Your Partner Is Becoming Distant... I knew the sign when he walks straight to his mother's home when he gets home.
What does washing produce actually do?
8 Ways Divorce Made Me A Better Parent.. a long road to heal.. grief is tough
Stop Making Everything Perfect For Your Kid
IS SELF SOOTHING THE BIGGEST CON OF NEW PARENTHOOD?
Here’s A Super Helpful Chart Showing At What Age To Give Kids Certain Chores; GABES DOES 5 things under his age group on this list :)
Harvard Psychologists Say: Parents Who Raise ‘Good’ Kids, Do These 5 Things!
Studies ShowShoes are Harmful-Going Barefoot is Best for Kids
Kind Kids are Cool Kids. Making sure your child isn’t the bully.
The Dehumanisation of Children
The Mom Deciding What to Tell Her Son About His Origin Story
This Is Why Your Baby Doesn't Sleep Through The Night, this makes me so happy.. they are so full of crap... the days are those 4 women that I don't have a stomach for them.
How Listening To My Husband Ended My Marriage
COMING HOME: CUSTODY TRANSITION DO’S AND DON’TS; so glad I don't do this, keep Gabe in one home, keep it stable.
The Three Words I Won’t Let My Children Say
WHAT TO DO WHEN YOUR EX WON’T STOP TALKING TRASH
HOW TO HANDLE COPARENTING MONEY MATTERS
10 THINGS I’VE LEARNED ABOUT BEING A DIVORCED MOM #iamenough
Positive birth movement: the group making labour less traumatic for women across the world
18 Tweets From Moms and Dads Showing the Essence of Parenthood
What Your Milk of Choice Could Mean for the Growth of Your Kid
The Clutter-Depression-Anxiety Cycle: How to Stop It
How to Fight Stress with Empathy, listening.. thank you.
Lead Detected In Baby Food Samples. Pediatricians Say There's No Safe Level
11 Signs You Had An Emotionally Abusive Parent & It Still Affects You Now
Kawasaki Youth’s Murder Exposes Japan’s Social and Policy Failings in Coping with Immigration
More Proof That Phubbing, Aka "Phone Snubbing," Wrecks Your Relationships
Why I Haven’t Talked to My Father in 17 Years

Happy Father's day.

“Things will be bad between us for a long time. But you’ll see, things will get better.”--- unknown..
Kindness with strength is one of the greatest things we can nurture in our kids - unknown

Friday, June 16, 2017

I went to the Julbord (winter) feast last year. I missed the spring one, Paskbord. So here we go, Smörgåsbord (summer).
Why Fathers Leave Their Children " it’s the parents’ bond with each other." AMEN
The 4 Most Common Narc-Sadistic Triangulation Tactics
Let’s stop overusing the word ‘narcissist’
Here's how you can keep yourself staying positive
Without school, when do I get ‘me time’
Why Do Men Harass Women? New Study Sheds Light On Motivations
Does Day Care Affect My Baby's Emotional Development? Experts Weigh In
Four Words to Seem More Polite
Five-month-old babies know what’s funny
29 Magical Photos Of Dads In The Delivery Room, some of them are touching, real and kind., sadly, my experience was very different.
Instagram Turned Barbie Into a Millennial Mom — and the Posts Are Spot-On
Millennial Women Are Worse Off Than Their Mothers
Tslk to boys the way we talk to girls
Language alters our experience of time
Bilingual speakers experience time differently from people who only speak one language, study finds
5 GENIUS PHRASES TO HELP KIDS LISTEN
The Distinct, Positive Impact of a Good Dad
“B” For Behavior
Remember why your child’s not listening to you—even when it drives you bonkers
Positive Father-Infant Interactions Stimulate Cognitive Development
Bill would make shared custody mandatory priority for family court judges “Victims often don’t contact law enforcement because they are afraid of retaliation. They don’t often tell friends or family because they are ashamed of what happened or because they’ve been isolated by their abuser so proof can be difficult...” - Shiemke
A Mental Health Mantra for Parents and Kids "Let feelings be. Accept tantrums, meltdowns, whines, neediness, disappointments, sadness, major and minor complaints without judgment. Our children’s feelings and desires are involuntary and do not belong to us. Managing, calming, or otherwise “fixing” them is not our responsibility, nor is it helpful to them."
High Court Strikes Down Law Favoring Unwed Mothers Over Unwed Fathers
10 Comics That Will Speak To You If You’re Totally Sick Of Dating.. funny..when I am ready.. love is a rough.
Do You Bite Your Nails? It Might Mean You’re A Perfectionist
The true bad habits around baby sleep truly truly truly love these 10 points
He Was On Verge Of Divorce And Broken Down Completely, Until One Simple Question Changed Everything. I absolutely see that question would have worked for any couple that have issues to solve..I would say the same for me.
Don’t Expect Toddlers To Behave Consistently — They Literally Can’t.. MVP, maybe you should read more parenting book.
20 Unexpected Things You Learn About Yourself After You Become a Mother
The Luxury Of Not Giving A Damn
I do not help my wife
I’ve Been Drawing A Comic Every Day For My Girlfriend For 5 Years, this is really sweet.. just some simple to show the love and care.. and the living.... they rock.
How Not to Suck at Mom FriendshipsWA is 14 & Oregon is 41...hm..
The healthiest and happiest state to raise your kids
The Year My Marriage Almost Broke
Why We Should Teach Empathy to Preschoolers
10 Things You’ll Only Feel When You’ve Found The Man You Should Marry
Confession: I Pop My Husband’s Zits
Play Date With the Lost Generation
12 Comics to Help You Take a Look at Life From a Zen Perspective
Why educational investment in teenage girls is a necessity
'Start early' and 15 other ways I made bedtime my family's favorite part of our day.I tis challenging, I will need to do it differently.
Practical Minimalism: Being a Minimalist with a Family
Why You Should Treat Your Child Like an Adult
8 WAYS ON HOW TO BE MORE PRESENT WITH YOUR KIDS
I’m The Mom Who Just Can’t Get It Together
People With Clean Homes Don’t Do These 9 Things, it is a continuous struggle as a family with one working adult and a toddler.. but we keep working at it.
How to live without air conditioning..... consider this...
21 Ways to Reach a Child's Heart ; I love it.. I am doing most of it.. so I love our positive attachment.
Why you should ALWAYS comfort a child – no matter why they’re crying
Why I'm Not Toughening Up My Children
Confessions of a Part-Time Mom; I don't want to be a part time parent.. I deal with it for quite some times now.. shared custody is never good for me because of the difficulty of co parenting with the other parent
Am Happily Divorced, And Not Looking For Love.. I am looking for love.. but I also need self-love and companionship.
16 Things We Don’t Do To Stay Happily Married.. I didn't everything to honor that..#4 was BIG.. I stayed silence..
How the Same Day Looks From a Mom’s and Kid’s Perspectives, I hugged Gabe a little longer when we start our days each morning. I tried to see it from his eyes and his worlds.. so we are happier that way as I regulate my expectation.
Why parents need to teach middle-schoolers kindness, from the author of ‘Wonder’
Conspicuous consumption is over. It’s all about intangibles now
The Most Important Skill to Teach Children
12 Mistakes You Should Avoid in Order to Look Great in Photos, something we should all practice. :)
How Supportive Parenting Protects the Brain
Let Go of the Guilt, Love Is Enough
All moms raise their kids differently — and these 19 posts are celebrating that.
7 Subtle Ways to Encourage Your Kids to be Readers
Today's families are prisoners of their own clutter
7 Realistic Love uotes
10 Incredibly Profound Quotes in Children’s Literature
Motherhood, Presence and the First Three Years.. I still have time.. I will continue to be "presence" to my darling... dishes can wait. clothes can be folded later.. email can be checked later.. even my work project can be waited (to an extended where I don't get fired at work)
Want to be a happy parent? Give up these 15 things to find joy
Stop pretending you are not rich.
Financially helping adult kids may just be a return to an old normal
Minimalist Finances and Budgeting
We Let Our Children Do Dangerous Things Instead Of Stopping Them
How to Stop Buying Things You Don't Need
Why French Parenting Helps Kids Eat Normal Foods, Behave Themselves, And Sleep All Night
What happens when parents loosen up a bit? Look to the Dutch
How to Parent Like a German