Wednesday, May 31, 2017

“But let there be spaces in your togetherness, And let the winds of the heavens dance between you. Love one another, but make not a bond of love: Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.”- Kahlil Gibran

7 Things You Do Every Day That'll Make Your Baby Smarter Later In Life smarty or not, I will always love you.
Dear thirtysomething moms—I see you
To The Mom Struggling To Hold Her Sh*t Together
Parenting as a Process
Why Kids Benefit From Fewer Toys
What Kids Learn From Hearing Family Stories
The Single Most Important Parenting Action We Can Take Today I am posting it again.. pay attention, listen!
7 Things I Wish My Partner Had Said To Me Postpartum, Without Being Asked, you are joking, right? I don't remember hearing any of these.
Why You Should Stop Feeding Your Baby From Trendy Little Food Pouches
The Support of an Unexpected Samaritan when My Child Suffered a Public Meltdown, and How You Can Help Other Moms, Too
New Study Says Your Parents Should Be Asking to Babysit, personally.. i don't agree with the statement, esp. GKP is a toxic person.
“But let there be spaces in your togetherness, And let the winds of the heavens dance between you. Love one another, but make not a bond of love: Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.”- Kahlil Gibran Practicing The Subtle Art Of Detachment
In Japan, single mothers struggle with poverty and with shame.
5 Things You Do Every Day That'll Make Your Baby Kinder Later In Life
CELEBRATING THE CONTRIBUTIONS OF ASIAN AMERICANS AND PACIFIC ISLANDERS; I will teach my kiddo about diversity and his heritage.
扼殺寶寶腦的三大殺手
Nothing can dim the light which shines from within. - Maya Angelou

Sunday, May 28, 2017

“I am not a product of my circumstances. I am a product of my decisions.” –Stephen Covey

The Silent Tragedy Affecting Today’s Children
Should you avoid bathing or leaving the house after childbirth, as Chinese tradition dictates?
What It Means to Settle and Why You Shouldn’t Do It!
The ugly secret of working moms
To Be Surprised by Your Enemies, Stay Sturdy and Playful
Fathers' brains respond differently to daughters than sons
Narcissistic Family and Pseudomutuality
The gender wars of household chores: a feminist comic
3 Ways Single Moms Can Survive Financially
You Never Let Me Cry Crying is healthy.. we are good!
On The Days You Lose Your Sh*t I lost it today.. I felt the sadness and guilt to myself and to Gabe. But I also had learned a lesson.. We grew together and we draw the positivity of this experience.
How You Argue Could Make You Sick
3 Key Components to Building Your Healthy Self-Care Routine
Amazon’s first bookstore in New York City sucks the joy out of buying books
Digital Silence, and Its Impact on Relationships that was us, Mihai got really upset if he didn't get a response from me right at that second.. super silly to set such unrealistic expectation.
As Brains Mature, More Robust Information Networks Boost Self-Control
Me, Myself, and IKEA: What Our Love For Swedish Furniture Says About Narcissism
7 Things Your Husband Hates About You (Yes, Really)
The Reality of Having Two Under 2
Hey Mama, Please Never Forget That You Are Phenomenal (You Really Are)
Yep, I Call Myself a Married Single Mom
7 Reasons Your Wife Is Stressed Out All the Time
5 Choices You Will Regret Forever; don't live with regrets. Act, change, evolve, grow!
還在兇孩子嗎?快看處理孩子情緒的「SOP圖」!
This is why bilingual is better
How to raise creative children
11 Signs Your Partner Is Actually Your Best Friend, Further Proving You're Meant To Be
The Roots of Childhood Aggression, and How to Handle Them With Compassion
A Standing Meditation for Self-Care
Effects Of Uninvolved Parenting On Kids
Ivanka’s Maternity Leave Plan Is A Cruel Joke
8 Things The Happiest Couples Do Before Bed
The Biggest Mistake in Modern Education?
12 Signs You Might Be A Badass Single Mom
This Mr. Rogers story will probably
When ‘Frumpy’ Goes Too Far: Don’t Neglect Yourselves, Mamas
The “mommy wars” aren’t real—but the attack on American women is
When Hiding in the Closet Is the Only Way to Connect With Your Spouse
Preschool, A State-By-State Update
A Picture Is Worth A Thousand Words
The Real Reason Women's Careers Stall (Hint: It Has Nothing To Do With The Laundry)
With My Children, Learning to Love the Little Things
How childhood trauma can affect mental and physical health into adulthood
If Kindergarten Wasn’t So Much Like First Grade, We Wouldn’t Need To
‘Dear Men, Take The Photo’
How can you be sure the person you’re going to marry is the one?
What Children Overhear Matters Now More Than Ever
The Independent Mothers of Iceland
Google's CEO Doesn't Use Bullet Points and Neither Should You
http://jezebel.com/the-ctfd-method-is-the-greatest-of-all-parenting-trends-816536389
Helen Mirren Zings Donald Trump In Most Badass Commencement Speech Of 2017
Self-Care is Not Taking a Shower
Want To Change Your Child? Start By Regulating Your Own Emotions
The moment this single mom found financial independence
"There is no greater love than to lay down one's life for one's friends." John 15:13

Thursday, May 25, 2017

Trump's Proposed Budget Would Cut $2.2 Billion From Global Health Spending
Ben Carson Says Poverty Is Largely ‘a State of Mind’
The most devastating paragraph in the CBO report
Appeals Court Slaps Down Donald Trump's Travel Ban Yet Again
Trump Wants Families On Food Stamps To Get Jobs. The Majority Already Work
Patient, Doctor Groups Say New CBO Score Reveals Health Care Bill's Flaws
President Trump's Big Wall Is Now Just 74 Miles Long In His Budget Plan; what a beautiful 74 miles long wall.
GOP Health Plan Would Leave 23 Million More Uninsured, Budget Office Says
Betsy Devos Says Discrimination Against LGBT Students Is OK Because, School Choice
The GOP healthcare plan is an absurd distraction
Why schools are worried about Medicaid cuts hurting special education
Here's What Betsy DeVos Said Today On Capitol Hill
Trump Budget's Paid Parental Leave Plan Could Mean Higher State Taxes
Congress and Farmers Are Shocked By Proposed USDA Cuts
Unusual place for a President's family on a foreign trip
GOP Bill Could Undercut Some Coverage In Job-Based Insurance
Trump Budget Deals 'Devastating Blow' To Low-Income Americans, Advocates Say
Trump Budget Plan Relies On Optimistic Growth Assumptions, Analysts Say
Medical Research, Health Care Face Deep Cuts In Trump Budget
President Trump's Budget Proposal Calls For Deep Cuts To Education
Compare the notes Trump and Obama left at Israel’s Holocaust memorial
Trump's 2018 Budget Cuts Funding For Cancer, Mental Health, and HIV Research
Ex-CIA chief John Brennan: Russians contacted Trump campaign
The Obstruction of Justice Case Against the Trump White House Just Got a Lot Stronger
Ivanka’s Maternity Leave Plan Is A Cruel Joke
New Orleans Mayor Denounces Confederate Nostalgia in Stirring Speech Defending Monument Removal

May 25 is Red Nose Day in UK.

Do You Know What Red Nose Day Is? Ans: It's a campaign to raise money to fight child poverty.

They say when you really love someone, you should be willing to set them free. So that is what I am doing. I will step back and you will move on. I will let you go….Your happiness means everything to me. I will listen for your voice in the distance. I will look at the moon. I will keep you in my pocket. I will carry your smile with me everywhere, like a warm and comforting glow. —Tabitha Suzuma

Wednesday, May 24, 2017

Smile 笑一笑 世界更美妙

Smile..not because you need to. but because you can. Be generous.. not because you need to. but because you can. Be inclusive.. not because you need to. but because you can. There are many things you don't need to. But if you can, and it helps someone. Why not? - Bryan Skavnak
Seattle Climbs but Austin Sprawls: The Myth of the Return to Cities
W. Kamau Bell to white people: ‘Cape up, man. Do something’
Nearly 160 Tons Of Food Manufactured In Washington Prison Kitchen Recalled
Seattle is one of the country’s most civically engaged cities, divided by race and socioeconomic status
Chinese Student's Commencement Speech In U.S. Isn't Going Over Well In China, This is so George Orwell's 1984. I found the speech refreshing.. I believe she won't be able to make such a speech in China without the post being deleted in Social media and that the secret police would be at her house in 5 mins and would have placed her in jail as she is a threat to the people, the party and the country. Whether she is talking about the right to have clean air or the freedom of speech, censorship and salience dissenting is real in China, just look at the proof as the commenter questioned about the speech's lack of review and approval prior to the commencement is the perfect illustration that thought polices are deeply ingrained that People in China and their thoughts, actions and speeches have to be approved before being shared in public.
As Store Layoffs Mount, Retail Lags Other Sectors In Retraining Workers

Tuesday, May 23, 2017

Motherhood...Thank you... I am a happy woman because I am Gabe's mother. I count my blessing everyday and thank you.

I Am A Mom With Almost No Social Life, And I Like It This Way
Child Therapist Gives Gorgeous Explanation Of What Good Parenting Looks Like "Babies cry, it's how they communicate. Toddlers scream, children whinge and teenagers complain. Then mums say the words 'for fuck sake under their breath before every responding. It's how we communicate. But guess what Con? It's better then silence. A house full of screaming kids and fighting teenagers and a parent who's being thrown every question and request is a healthy one to me. It's the silent children, the scared toddlers, the teenagers that don't come home and the parents who aren't in communication with their children that I worry about. And kids don't drive you crazy, you were crazy already. That's why you had them."
11 Signs Your Partner Is Actually Your Best Friend, Further Proving You're Meant To Be, sadly #11 will never happen in my life if I am with you. Good luck to you.
12 Signs You Might Be A Badass Single MomThe simple action you can take right now to change your life. All you need is a pen.
12 Signs You Might Be A Badass Single Mom
A Standing Meditation for Self-Care
The Roots of Childhood Aggression, and How to Handle Them With Compassion Connection, connection, connection :)
8 Things The Happiest Couples Do Before Bed
Too-Real Cartoons Capture The ‘Weird,’ Gross Sides Of Motherhood, so true, so real, so raw.. yet.. there were no sympathy or empathy from a narcissist.. instead he just calls me crazy..
Sleep in a bed, order lobster to your tent when you ‘glamp’ in Maine, I can dream.. :)
SEAWORLD ENTERTAINMENT AND SESAME WORKSHOP ANNOUNCE EXPANDED PARTNERSHIP TO INCLUDE NEW SESAME PLACE THEME PARK, I want to take Gabe to a theme park.
Here's Why It Feels Like You Have No Free Time, In One Chart
Men And Women — We Are So Different, some of these are silly, but yet quite true.
It made me into a person with a mission; readers react to motherhood
You don’t HAVE TO do anything. Really.
What Mothers Need to Succeed
Teaching Kids To Give Back: 5 Easy Ways To Volunteer As A Family
Giving 101: The Princeton Class That Teaches Students to Be Less Selfish
Teresa Teng
What Makes a Parent? Gunn is insane.. she is bitter and now she wanted to steal a child that doesn't belong to her.
How a terminally ill mother came to a fatal decision for her mentally ill son, tragic.. and yet.. I don't have words to describe the emotional that overcome me after I finished reading the story. I do find it incredibly sad that the mother in the story found it justifiable in her mind to end the life of her son. It is not right. She is not saving the world from her son's future actions. She took her son's chance to live a life, happy or not. That is not right.
20 Brutally Honest Things Women Turning 40 Want All Women In Their 30s To Know
Pharrell To College Graduates: ‘We Need To Lift Up Our Women’
Mother, Wife, Slave
The Urban-Rural Divide in Interracial Marriage
What the Conversation Around Alex Tizon’s Atlantic Essay Is Missing
The Slavemaster’s Son. A response to Alex Tizon’s “My Family’s Slaves"
The difference between a good day and a bad day is a lot more complex than some sanctimonious quote on the internet. - Veronica Dearly.

Thoughts of the 20 years- DAS

As I saw a glimpse of the Diana show last night, I realized that I have known you for 20 years. Happy friendship anniversary. Ranges of emotion has rushed in as I reflected on the history that we had. Thank you for being there for me and had provided me the unconditional love and support. May you continue to live your dream.

Monday, May 22, 2017

Psychologists have great news for people who worry a lot
The Only Thing I Didn't Give My Kids Is the One Thing They Needed the Most
Hilarious Video Basically Nails What It’s Like To Live With A Toddler
Dear husband: Let’s not wait until the kids are grown to make time for us, WELL, IF THE OTHER PERSON IS NOT MATURE ENOUGH TO HANDLE CRYING FROM MAMA AND BABY, YOU ARE DOOMED.
I Don’t Think We Are Meant To Parent For This Many Hours, Alone
WHY CHILDREN FIDGET: And what we can do about it
You’re Going To Miss It yes, I'M VERY TIRED.. BUT STILL.. I NEED TO MUSCLE IT THROUGH.. BECAUSE, YES, I WILL MISS IT.
Are All Mental Illnesses Related?
What Should A 4-Year-Old Know? I saw this but we are not there yet.. I think Gabe knows what the 2-3 should know.. having fun!
According to Harvard Psychologist: Parents who raise good kids do these 5 things
How to Master Your Emotions
How People Decide Whether to Have Children
Five Issues YOU might have to overcome before choosing not to circumcise your son... This is deeply personal, and till this day, I still have guilt and mixed feeling about allowing the father of my child to influence me to have this procedure done to Gabriel.. something, I don't really see the reason or logic behind it.. is there a real medical benefit?
The decade of the brain

10 Biggest Discipline Mistakes You're Probably Making
There’s a Right Way and a Wrong Way to Do Empathy
8 Healthy Habits Of Couples Who Attend Marriage Therapy
The 'untranslatable' emotion
Urban Activities So Energy-Sucking Your Kids Will Be Begging For a Nap
10 Hilarious ‘Kid Logic’ Examples That Left Their Parents in Stitches
7 Kid Battles We Just Can’t Fight Anymore, I am pretty happy with those battles.. they are not even an issue.. the sleeping part is hard
One Woman Explains How Taking Care Of Herself Made Her A Better Mom
Dear Family, Find Your Own Sh*t
3 Reasons Kids Should Never Open Up Gifts During Their Birthday Party
Fake Crying and Manipulation
I Thought My Kid Didn’t Need Preschool. I Was Wrong.
The Ultimate Bedtime Routine for Young Children
I Refuse To Tolerate Backtalk, And My Children Know It, this is very interesting.. this is just the beginning..
11 Sentences That Will Change Your Child’s Life
10 habits to shape a kind, well-adjusted child
6 Things I Stopped Fighting My Kids On, Because They Literally Don’t Matter; I am pretty strict on screen times, other than that, let them be kids

My Partner Was Suffering from Postpartum Depression, and I Wish I Had Done More to Help, this makes me laugh so hard in my own dealing with unloving human being. I was just sick to my stomach when I think about he was treating in my time of need of love and care. He betrayed my love and my trust.
The Darkest Truth About Love
I Was Shutting My Husband Out of Raising Our Kid "maternal gatekeeping", I am not sure if I believe that. I actively engaged him in my learning and decision making process about parenthood and he didn't want to have I before our separation, he is too absorbed and busy to pay attention because I was just bothering him. Post separation, now he with losing the "control", now he wants to make decisions, and they are bad decisions. How 4 Words Changed The Way I Talk to My Kids (And Everyone Else Too) BUT VS. at the same time.. love it.
Strong-Willed Women Mothering Strong-Willed Children , it may not be true, I see how one guy will his every moves to his mother's every wish...
When the Body Attacks the Mind
The moment with my son I'll never get back, yes those moments were precious, time goes and you don't get it back.. so live it fully and purposely and intensely.
Children need microbes — not antibiotics — to develop immunity, scientists say
8 Ways Maintaining Your Marriage After A Baby Is Harder Than Caring For A New Human
10 Things My Partner Can't Understand About Pregnancy & Losing My Bodily Autonomy, he just didn't give a "f" about me, or my overall wellness in general.
Negative Emotions Are Key to Well-Being
The Single Most Important Parenting Action We Can Take Today
We Have FOMO For Our Children And It Needs To Stop, we can't do it all, set realistic expectation to self. Don't be over critical of your sincere effort.
The Ethos of the Overinvolved Parent
How to be happy
Productive adults who contribute to society learn from engaged, loving moms
Why kids behave worse when mummy is in the room – a mum’s point-of-view... oh.. so.. true...
A Letter to My Working Mom
Why James Comey’s Obsessive Note-Taking Is A Smart Strategy For Surviving Difficult Bosses
職場上,不要期待會有人教你! 你不是學生,也沒有老師,不要再等別人幫你「畫重點」!
Here’s A Brilliant Way To Explain What ‘Consent’ Means To Kids
The 5-Second Trick to Ending a Fight
After a loss, learning to be happy again
Is There a Link between Music and Math?
9 Toddler Sleep Myths That Are BS & Need To Be Debunked Now
Regular Bedtimes for Children Aid Development
How Co-Sleeping Affects Your Kid's Mental Health, Potentially
I Don’t Ask My Spouse For Permission "When it comes to making a choice for myself, it’s nice to know that I’m not married to someone who feels the need — or the power — to “let” me do something."
10 Things To Tell Your Partner When Your Relationship Is Difficult
9 Things I Learned From Dating A Man Child

Saturday, May 20, 2017

8 Clear Signs That Show You Are Way Too Stressed
Connect Instead of Correct and Other Ways to Change Your Parent Perspective
10 Things My Mom Told Me as a Kid That Give Me Confidence as an Adult
To The People Who Ghosted When I Had Kids
When your toddler defies you, love is the answer
Think You're One and Done? Read This First, my dream may come true.
The Real Work Of Teaching
How I Slowed My Family Down. Like, to the Last Century.
11 Super Powers Moms Have That Would Make The X-Men Jealous, yes, being a mom is pretty awesome!
Let The Kids Be Bored Sometimes (It’s Good For Them)
Rilke on What It Really Means to Love “For one human being to love another: that is perhaps the most difficult of all our tasks… the work for which all other work is but preparation.”
Watch Out For This Red Flag In Love
11 Superb Spring Sensory Bins for Babies and Toddlers
Chill Out, American Parents, Our Kids Are Safer Than Ever
My Single Friends Are Shaming Me For Becoming a Mom, & It's Absolutely Infuriating
Want To Influence Your Kid’s Behavior? Start With Your Relationship
For Longevity, Men Need to Cultivate Deep Friendships
If you Love her, Don’t Destroy Her., I know that you don't love me, you were set to destroy us, and specific me and son. "If you love her, love her with all her flaws and insecurities. She is as imperfect as you are and she only hopes to share that imperfection with you. She wants to undress her soul in front of you and be utterly herself. She wants to be the same way with you that she is in the mirror—crazy, wild and free. If you’re not ready to accept her as she is, you will destroy her. If you love her, build her up because she will be doing the same for you. Know that whatever effort you put in, she will be putting in double. If you show her the moon, she’ll show you the entire galaxy. If you take her to a well, she’ll introduce you to the ocean. If you treat her right, she’ll love you more. If you love her well, she’ll never forget you."
Being A Good Girlfriend Might Be Bad For Your Relationship, Science Says
7 Parenting Mistakes That Can Ruin a Marriage
Chris Cornell's Suicide Is Sadly Familiar To Gen-Xers
Seneca on True and False Friendship
This Gen X woman's incredible advice to millennials has gone viral on Twitter
The 5 Most Important Money Lessons To Teach Your Kids
10 Things I Wish I Said To The Mom Who Stood Up For Me In The Checkout Line
Being a Working Mom Was Easier Before My Kid Started School
It Only Took These Moms 5 Minutes To Hilariously Sum Up Swimsuit Season #IMomSoHard”
A relationship expert says one word can defuse a fight with your partner — but most people don't use it enough "ouch" will just pass thru a narcissist's mind...I don't think this word is strong enough.
3 Bullsh*t Ways WOMEN Bully Men After Divorce —P.S. Your Kids Notice, this goes both way for SURE; I am so glad that I have the conviction and strong moral compass not to do this to anyone.

May is Mental Health Month

To Choose Divorce Is Not To Choose Failure, walk away from the love of my life was hard, but walk a way from an abusive partner to save my soul and the future of my life and my child is upmost the most responsible thing I ever did.
Don’t Fix These Toddler Struggles
How Parents Can Help Kids Develop A Sense Of Purpose
I'm a Slave to My Daughter's Sleep Schedule, I do best for us, no one should let one thing, one way of thinking to slave their minds or lives.
Parenting Is More Stressful for Moms, More Fun for Dads, Says New Study
Research says that birth order can shape your personality. Here’s how; pretty true for me.
My Mom’s Original Gangster Parenting Hacks Would Never Fly Today
The Secret to Smart Negotiations Is Simply Empathy
To fall in love with anyone, do this.
The 13 Sexiest Things You Can Ever Say to a Woman
How to Be Kind When You’re Upset With Your Partner "Kindness doesn’t mean that we can't express our anger, but it informs how we express the anger. You can throw spears at your partner, or you can explain why you’re hurt and angry."
Empathy: How Families Lead with Gratitude and Kindness
The Self-Compassion Solution
Why she stays: Keeping the children safe from an abusive spouse
How to defuse a child’s tantrum with one question
50 Super Simple Text Messages That Keep A Relationship Strong And Healthy
12 in 100 Parents Are Burned Out. Are You One of Them?
Tending Our Inner Life to Make the World Whole "To tend to our own inner life is not selfishness; it is wisdom, it is essential, and it is unavoidable"
To Raise Better Kids, Say No
An Unforgettable Reflection: My Issues Don’t Have to be My Children’s Issues; I am raising my boy to be a brave young man and that he is not afraid to set boundary and speak his mind respectfully.
Why Kids Thrive When We Set High Expectations
Yup, I Let Myself Go Postpartum, & You Probably Should, Too
Are Men With Beards More Desirable?
A Mother’s Mental Health Is EVERYTHING, So Stop Ignoring Yours
Stop telling your child they're 'amazing'. Instead, say this.
Where Kids Aren’t Allowed to Put on Sunscreen: in School
What Am I Doing to My Kid When I Yell?
THIS IS ONE OF THE BEST INDICATORS OF COMPATIBILITY
The Milestones That Matter Most
EIGHTEEN SUMMERS: IT’S ALL WE GET
You Can’t ‘Single Mom It’ If You’re Not A Single Mom
7 Ways to Be a More Loving Partner ... and 3 reasons we so often fall short.
12 Trophies Every Second-Time Parent Deserves, I win the trophy just being the first time parent!
Family And Friends, Please Stop Buying My Kids So Much Stuff; not easy, but we are doing better.
13 Powerful Phrases Proven to Help an Anxious Child Calm Down
Moms Returning To The Workforce Can Fill Their Resume Gaps With ‘The Pregnancy Pause’ “The Pregnancy Pause”, loving it.
Mistakes Can’t Be Undone
The man trap
These Are The Recommended Sleep Times According To The National Sleep Foundation
When You Aren’t In The ‘Cool Mom’ Clique
Are the New Megadonors Distorting American Society?
Growing Up Without Siblings May Affect Your Brain's Development
6 Healthy Relationship Habits Most People Think Are Toxic, I do most of it, I know I am not the toxic one