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關於「選擇」 你問我,該選擇放手?還是堅持? 放手了可能一輩子就形同陌路 ,,繼續堅持又得在強迫自己當朋友的情況下患得患失 , 已經嚴重影響到自己的生活了。 我想說,愛情裡幾乎時時遭逢選擇時刻,比如表白,比如承諾,比如離開,比如堅持,比如放手。 更有許多細微的選擇,充滿了戀人們的生活。 當你放手的時刻,你永遠不會知道是否還有下一次機會,你不會知道痛苦要多久才會消失,你不會知道,對方往後還會不會記得你,你不會知道,自己孤獨地可以愛她多久,在這些未知之中,如果你選擇了放手,原因非常簡單,你只是希望她快樂,即使讓她快樂的方式是離開,即使或許將來她會後悔,即使,人總是在改變,誰也不知道被改變流向的河,將成為如何的河,它只是一逕地向前,被改變了,依然向前。 你不是沒有選擇,但或許沒有一個選項在此刻不是帶著痛苦的,但我們總是希望在這些痛苦之中,至少是朝著愛,而不是為了躲避痛苦而來,正如當我們有機會愛著的時候,我們願意盡力去愛,而不是享受著「擁有」「被愛」的滿足。 有些放手很像堅持,或許該說,那些放手的動作裡本身就帶著堅持的意志,她說只能當朋友,她說我沒感覺了,他說還是分開比較好,他說我還是想要跟她在一起。她說不愛了,他說雖然還愛但是沒辦法了,或者她說,「不要再見面了」。 這些那些,每一句都可以撕裂你的生命。 然而我在想,無論是愛情的開始,或是愛情的盡頭,我們無法讓對方對我們不離不棄,甚至我們自己也無法在還強烈愛著的時候突然變身成為一個朋友,我們唯一可以做的,也只是守護那份愛的心意,知道放手是為了不摧毀那份美好的愛,而在放手的時刻,心裡同時還是堅持著祝福與信任,一份愛存在過,它會在某個時空被完善地保存下來。 走到盡頭了,來龍去脈也還弄不清楚,想彌補,想挽回,想努力,想要奇蹟發生,希望一切只是惡夢醒來又回到過往的甜蜜。 勇敢地走進去吧,真正的愛之中也有能力不足的時刻,很抱歉無法在這樣的時刻繼續當朋友,但那份心意是比若無其事地當朋友更慎重的,或許有一天會找到在現實裡還能相處的方式,或許不能,或許慢慢地你會成長,能克服自己的不能夠,患得患失,以及企圖挽回,最終回到最初那份單純地愛的心意。 或許,那些都不會發生,你們會成為彼此生命裡的一段回憶。 放手或堅持,選擇之中不變的只是,我們是為了愛而選,而不是為了需要,我們總是選擇成全對方,而不是滿足自我的。 當你真正去做了朝向愛的選擇,那份激烈的痛苦有天會鎮定下來的,因為那時你已經知道,有些愛不拘形式,不為時空阻隔,看起來似乎已經不是兩人世界,但這份愛人的心,會讓你克服失去的痛苦,而有機會進入下次愛的學習。 勇敢地選擇那對愛最好的方式,然後承擔起這條路徑迎面而來的痛苦與磨練。這會使她自由,也會使你成長。-陳雪

I like this Chica

What makes you angry? Ignorance. Baseless prejudice. Dishonesty. Entitlement. Bullying. The plastic surgery epidemic. People who troll everywhere online because they can hide behind a screen name. Human trafficking. Domestic abuse. The term "legitimate rape." The politicization of family planning and women's health care. The North Korea crisis. Fukushima. Styrofoam. Global warming. High fructose corn syrup. Monsanto. The destruction of nature. Genderism. The shady 1%-ers. The word "San Fran" (k maybe not angry, but it's annoying). People who walk briskly on a busy street and then suddenly stop as if no one's behind them. Cockiness (not the same as confidence). Holding grudges. Road rage. Texting while driving. Drunk driving. Bad parking! Traffic. People who take education and basic privileges for granted. Scammers. Etc.

Thursday, November 21, 2013

Hello Mikaela!

Happy Mama and family. Welcome to planet earth! p
練習用最簡單的句子,表達最複雜的想法。- 鄧九雲

Fun APA history!

Reporter Jennifer 8. Lee talks about her hunt for the origins of familiar Chinese-American dishes -- exploring the hidden spots where these two cultures have (so tastily) combined to form a new cuisine.

我好棒! YEAH!

上一次你和自己說:『你的好棒!』是什麼時候?- 馮云

Saturday, November 16, 2013

Friday, November 15, 2013

We are slow and fat!

:(.. I see lay off!
The priest says, "Forgiveness is the base of a happy family". That is true, and the forgiveness is based on love and promise. "To forgive is the highest, most beautiful form of love. In return, you will receive untold peace and happiness." - Robert Muller "There is no love without forgiveness, and there is no forgiveness without love." - Bryant H. McGill "A happy marriage is the union of two good forgivers." - Robert Quillen "Forgiveness is me giving up my right to hurt you for hurting me." - Anonymous "Forgiveness is the fragrance the violet sheds on the heel that has crushed it." - Mark Twain "Always forgive your enemies - nothing annoys them so much." - Oscar Wilde "Anger makes you smaller, while forgiveness forces you to grow beyond what you were." - Cherie Carter-Scott "Forgiveness is like faith. You have to keep reviving it." - Mason Cooley

Wednesday, November 13, 2013

True da!

You have your way. I have my way. As for the right way, the correct way, and the only way, it does not exist. - Friedrich Nietzsche

珍惜眼前人。

當所愛的人離去,你會花時間「清理」心房,準備迎接另一個人?還是繫上心鎖,活在回憶當中? 林二汶:空房 你有沒有這樣的潔癖?每次結束一段關係,你都花時間把殘留下來的碎片清理好,好讓心房乾淨,當你遇上一直未出現的,你一直等待的人時,你的心就像一所有足夠空間放置所需一切的房子,以後這人就可以在裏面安住。 這種潔癖,從展望將來的角度看的確是好事。你不好好清理自己的心,又如何有地方容納該容納的人呢?不過從另一個角度看,要將從前有過的故事都從心靈「清理」掉,是很冷漠很殘忍的事。有發生過的,不應該被抹掉,因為那些故事總有它們的價值,那些是讓你成為今天這個人的重要養分。 和平分手的,等於路都已經走到盡頭。選擇和平地結束了,那麼有什麼感覺和遺憾還要留在心中呢? 因為第三者分手的,你可以當留下一個教訓,以後也要懂得帶眼識人,另外,也可以當上了愛的一課。 就算人家有第三者,也不代表你沒有問題,同樣,也可能代表關係根本就不快樂,可能是你自己死命抓住關係不放,哪管不快樂也要撐下去。 最難消化的關係,莫過於「愛別離」。相愛但要別離,是什麼道理?而這一種,都是留在心裏良久也清不去的心事,因為裏面有遺憾。 你只可以明白一件事:「是你的就是你的。」那個跟你相愛也要別離的人,要是屬於你的,早就是你的了,不如,珍惜眼前人。

Tuesday, November 12, 2013

11.12.13

Just a reminder that we should cherish every moment we spend with our families and friends. It cost nothing to forgive, to say I love you, to give hugs, to help a stranger, to smile, to say please, to say thank you. Remain positive and enjoy life. Hugs...-A.B.

Sunday, November 10, 2013

Tuna day! Hmm.. what else?

Pepero Day is an observance in South Korea similar to Valentine's Day Pepero Day is an observance in South Korea similar to Valentine's Day
Martinstag
It is always better to think, than say.

Friday, November 08, 2013

大可不必去恨,或是討厭某些人。 因為那些被你恨的人,根本不會因為你對他的討厭而有任何的感覺的。 反而是自己的心中卻因此充滿了"難受"的情緒,不划算滴
“Life becomes easier when you learn to accept an apology you never got.” - Robert Brault 讓我有平靜的心,去接受我無法改變的事, 讓我有勇氣,去做我能改變的事, 讓我有智慧, 去分辨這兩者的不同。 — Anonymous “It is a narrow mind which cannot look at a subject from various points of view.” ― George Eliot, Middlemarch “Accept no one’s definition of your life; define yourself.” ― Robert Frost Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great. - Mark Twain Someone who really loves you sees what a mess you can be, how moody you can get, how hard you are to handle, but still wants you in their life. -#TLP
很多人真的只活在自己的小宇宙裡,把自己編造的故事當成事實。我也發現,真心為朋友或他人過得好而感到開心,是一種能力,與交情好像沒有絕對的關係。-鄧九雲

EnJoY!

13 TED Talks to cheer you up on a bad day
Ji-Hae Park: The violin, and my dark night of the soul
Irasshaimase! (いらっしゃいませ!) Okyaykusan wa omachininatte irasshaimasu.

Chicago Blackhawks!

YAY, another fave team won. Now only if Beavers can pull it off!

Sunday, November 03, 2013

Happy Dawali!

Friday, November 01, 2013